Status update
Hello, Desiree. So, Gabriel's been here about 2 weeks now. And in that time: - I've been teaching him to cook simple meals on his own - fried noodels with fresh vegetables, scrambled eggs, pancakes, etc. - he can ride his bicycle on his own; - we got him a violin and he's been learning/practicing that. I've put videos of him doing each of those things on his Facebook page. I don't understand how it is that he's been with you 2 and a half years and you've not taught him anything...yet you still try to convince yourself that you're a good parent. How can you be a good parent when you put spending time with, and making major life decisions based on being close to your boyfriend of the moment, before raising your children? Fox
What? No comeback? Could it be that you've finally accepted that you really are a terrible parent and an overall bad person? Fox
I understand that you feel the need to document every milestone of parental responsibility to prove you do anything beyond supplying a 14 with way too much free money. Do you want a "good boy"? Well...good boy Richard. I'm so glad that you taught your son some things. Way to go.
"Way too much free money?" Is that how you rationalize putting the cost of marijuana and alcohol before providing your children with decent clothes? And how do you figure the money is "free"? The arrangement was/is as long as he's doing well in school then he receives $125CDN. That's not free - that's equivalent to having a salaried job. It get's him used to working in exchange for a salary; and he has to manage that money in order to pay his phone bill and to get the things he wants. See, preparing him to be responsible and independent. None of the things we've been doing since he's been here have anything to do with money. I don't get your point. It's about teaching one's children - to prepare them for life. You know - a parent's responsibility? But you were never good with responsibilities or with putting others before yourself, were you? Why do you want your children to remain incapable of doing anything on their own so they have to depend on you? That's terrible parenting. But then, you're a single mother - that's what all single mothers do. Single mothers don't want to raise children - they just want to have babies. I know because I grew up around many of them. Cheers, Fox
And what is the lesson that you teach him by moving every 18 - 24 months? You've been at your current place for 2 years now so I'm pretty sure you're talking about how you hate it and you're preparing for your next move. Do you even consider how frequent moves affect your children? Or by making major decisions based on your boyfriend and your overwhelming desire to make him happy - at the expense of your childrens' happiness? Nice example you're setting. Thank God he has me to explain why that's bad and wrong.
And why do you keep calling me Richard? It's not my name and you know it's not. That doesn't make any sense. It's arbitrary. You're living in a fantasy. You're clinging to a past that doesn't exist.
Hello, Desiree. You seem to have, once again, completely missed the point. It is not to say how good of a parent I am because I have been teaching Gabriel things - quite to the contrary, it is my opinion I have fallen very short of my own, personal expectations of what a parent is, and what a parent has a duty to do. I do what I do out of a sense of obligation, duty, and decency; not because I seek praise. The point of the message was focused on you (not me). And how ridiculous it is that you would have the audacity to claim to be an excellent parent, having done nothing over the past two and a half years, to contribute to the development of your children. Interestingly, you force them to do things like travel to meet your distant family members - something Gabriel has no interest in and which will not benefit him in any way at all, yet you put no effort into teaching him to be fiscally responsible or how to prepare very basic meals for himself. You have truly curious priorities. Fox