Hello, again.
There's been a lot of hubbub in the media about my claim that Fox (my ex-husband) hid our son from me for 9 years. What a monster he is! Well, Fox has maintained that that allegation is completely false and that, in fact, it was I who left and forgot about our child.
For most people this sounds like "he said, she said" and there's just no way to know for sure what the truth is. Well, actually, in the great tradition of Desiree Capuano, I have told so many lies that they've gotten all tangled up and I haven't been able to keep track.
Desiree's Sworn Declaration in the Family Court (2011)
Here is a scanned copy of the sworn declaration I submitted to the family court back in 2011.
Notice, on page 14, paragraph 8, I admit that after Fox and I separated, I later moved back to Florida; and in paragraph 9 I admit that I left our son in Phoenix when I moved back to Florida.
In paragraph 12, I admit that Fox contacted me in 2005. And I don't indicate that I made any attempt to maintain contact at that point or that I had any interest in maintaining contact.
In paragraph 13 (on page 15), I say that over the next few years Fox only "allowed sparing contact" between me and our son. I may described the contact as "sparing", but I admit there was contact.
In paragraph 14, I admit that in 2009 I found out Fox was in a federal detention facility and that I "demanded" to know where our son was, and that Fox refused to tell me. But then I did nothing further in the matter. Fox was in custody! He couldn't go anywhere! All of his phone calls were being recorded! The detention facility, ICE, or any other number of sources could have told me where our son was. I could have notified the family court at that time. But I didn't do any of that. I just didn't really care!
In paragraph 15, I admit that it was Fox who tracked me down and contacted me in 2011.
Some of you might think, perhaps, the attached declaration is a forgery. But, again, it's filed with the Superior Court of Los Angeles, the case number is right there on the first page of the document. You can just as easily obtain a copy directly from the court.
Accusing a person of taking a child from a biological and custodial parent, then deliberately hiding that child from that parent for a period of nine years is an extremely serious allegation. That type of allegation can easily ruin a person's whole life. Yet, I will readily make such a false allegation against Fox. That is just the type of wonderful person I am!
Yes we got it. She is fucked up. But so are you with your equally as crazy antics. Your son was the worst parents in history contest. Her sworn declaration and this website proves how horrible his parents are.
Really? That’s it? So now she has gone on national television accusing me of abducting our child and absconding with him and I’m not supposed to be allowed to show proof that she’s full of crap and I’m innocent? Come on, dude!
At the end of the day your BOTH ruining your child. Doesn’t matter who started it or ended it. When it’s all said and done with your antics and the things she has done, you are both at fault. You both win the award for worst parents ever because of the viciousness of attacks on both ends which IS NOT in the best interest of your child. You are both screwing with his future.
The moment my son tells me he’s being adversely affected by my actions, or that he would prefer I remove this website I would. As long as he doesn’t care then I don’t consider that argument legitimate.
Some kids internalize issues that are deeply hurtful to them.
“Some kids internalize issues that are deeply hurtful to them.”
Yes, SOME kids do. SOME don’t. As you’re neither his caretaker or his psychologist, and have never met the child, you have no room to assume what this child is doing internally.
As a good friend of Sage, I can confidently say that Sage is a very care-free guy and would laugh at all of this if he looked into it. He couldn’t care less about any of this.
Living with so much drama can’t be good for anyone involved. This/you are very sad.
The drama of a mother who chooses the wrong men her whole life, including Patrick (sorry, but it’s true. You’re in the wrong on this, as well but that would take some time for me to sit and write out), is indeed horrible. You’re correct. You’re still not his psychologist, nor his psychiatrist. Just a stranger reading what evidence we have on a website. You have no room to make assumptions on what this kid is internalizing. Take a seat.
How dare you put up the adress where your son lives. So many sick people. You are putting your child at risk
Am I missing something? On the pdf, I see you listed as petitioner and if so, then pg 14, paragraph 8 is verification you allowed your wife to take your child. It indicates it was with petitioner’s permission.
RM
Yes, I am the petitioner in our divorce and child custody proceeding, Desiree’s the respondent.
Desiree didn’t inform me she was moving to Florida or that she had left our son in Phoenix. I found out from Desiree’s mother. As soon as I found out I went to Phoenix to get him, brought him back to Los Angeles and filed for divorce and custody. Moreover, her statement about my permission is irrelevant because she didn’t need my permission to move to Florida – there was no custody order at that time.
Richard come swivel on my big fucken monster cock like I know you want to you prison-buggered cocksucker!
asshole
Hey Patrick, do you think if I flash some cash and pot around her I can nail her? Drugged up money-loving whores are fun to fuck! And I see she likes it in the ass with Crisco! Awesome!
This is one of my favorite web sites EVER. I look ever day for new posts.
Ooo. Lots of crazy folks now know where your son lives and that his mom likes it up the ass
As a father you out your son at risk and in danger.
Actually, Desiree is the one that went out of her way to bring this site to the attention of the media. It’s her direct actions that caused this sudden explosion of activity. Before the CBC story only a handful (about 30 per day) visitors went to the site.
So, is it really fair to hold me responsible for that?
You are BOTH responsible for putting your son at risk. And at this point you are currently in the lead by publishing this filth and identifying info not only on your wife but now sick bastards on the internet know have the address of where your kid lives. A kid that questionable parents even further putting him at risk.
Well, I’ve read a bit on here, and you might have created this website to “get back at” your ex wife. You might accomplish that, but in the process you are also ruining yourself. Any woman in their right minds would never want anything to do with you!! You seem demented, a physco, (sociopath) if it sounds better, but either way, any woman would be just as bad to ever want to get involved with a man that would create a website like this, not to mention all the things that you have admitted to wanting to do, such as set up cameras etc..I’d never trust someone who would admit to taping or setting up cameras. I would be wondering if I was safe to go to the washroom in private, much less anything else!! I am not saying that your ex is not guilty of some or all of these things, but you are a very sick person to put it out there for the world, and I can gareentee that it’s not doing you any good. Wow, too creepy!!
It has been argued that hackers use doxing as a “tactic of harassment,” and therefore the actions are somewhat related to cyberbullying. The goal of those who seek, find, and then release personal information of others is ostensibly to bully or scare targets by destroying their sense of privacy and rendering them vulnerable to victimization by future harassers. For instance, a bullying aggressor might make use of your personal information by ordering multiple pizzas (that you never ordered or wanted!) for delivery at your home address. Another tactic is called “swatting,” and occurs when someone anonymously calls the police with a false threat (like a hostage situation) and uses your address, causing deployment of the police SWAT team to show up at your house armed and ready for violent action. This has most often stemmed from online gaming arguments, and has even left victims injured by police.
James Pendleton’s (Desiree current fiance) address and telephone number were already publicly posted on the Internet before I put them on the website. Desiree’s address was also already publicly available on the Internet on various social networking, people finder, and public records sites.
It’s true that you’re putting your son at risk. Any kiddy diddlers who are looking for an easy in on a boy with a distant mother who does drugs, and would be easily worked around now know where to find that little boy. Congrats buddy!
Ps, I’d throw it in her. Only a fool would try to keep her as a house pet though.
Doxing (alternately spelled “Doxxing”) is the research and broadcasting of personally identifiable information about an individual or individuals. It is done for a variety of reasons.
Doxing (Doxxing) can be considered the “sucker punch” of cyber warfare, in the sense that people with limited skills can pull it off and be successful at it.
A Doxing (Doxxing) attack can be considered a success when the information sought is captured and then publicly posted.
What is the purpose of doxing (doxxing) ?
Doxing is done for purposes of intimidation, coercion, extortion, blackmail, or just an overall reduction of the intended target’s personal security
The reality is that it’s relatively easy to mount a strong defense when you don’t have to do it for very long. You don’t get tired, you don’t get complacent, and you don’t spend every last dime keeping that strong defense active.
Doxing (Doxxing) can be a springboard for
Burglary
Murder
Targeted Hacking of home networks, email, websites, blogs, social media accounts, etc.
Spear Phishing
War Driving
Unwanted solicitations by mail and email
Sabotaging of promotional efforts
SWATting
Identity Theft
Online Impersonation
Harassing phone calls or text messages
Threats
Sabotage and any other threats facing a known fixed position
“Doxxing” is not currently illegal in any of the relevant jurisdictions. If it becomes illegal then I would re-evaluate the content of the site to ensure it is not in violation of those new laws.
It’s not about legal or illegeal. It’s about putting your son at risk of harm by sick bastards that pray in kids in vulnerable situations. I am suprised child protective service havnt been notified with putting your son at risk questioning your parenting
If I sincerely believed my son was being put at harm I would not proceed. I do not believe that any action taken on my part would put my son at harm. I do not believe that the existence of this website puts my son in any kind of harm.
Maybe not before. But now it’s blown up You would re evaluate your tactics Sincerely think about publishing identifying info regarding personal stories of anal sex and her parenting fails opens her up and EVERYONE in the home up to serious harm that includes your son. Every minute you have this site up add more risk of harm by crazy people out there.
“Doxing“ is a legal term that means revealing “documents” about a person. This can range from revealing the name of a person who uses an alias, but more commonly refers to revealing whatever the person doing it feels will harm, shame, humiliate, endanger, or put the person at some risk. Doxing is a form of stalking or threatening and is illegal under many different federal and state laws, depending on the exact facts and location.
Revealing a “name” per se’ may, or may not be considered “Doxing” depending on the level of anticipated anonymity. However, in this law, the term “restricted personal information” means, “with respect to an individual, the Social Security number, the home address, home phone number, mobile phone number, personal email, or home fax number of, and identifiable to, that individual.” This is an important distinction to remember.
Once you outline the address or location of a person, within which a person can be placed at risk, YOU have VIOLATED THE LAW. PERIOD.
In all cases if you outline the physical location of any individual with the intent to harm, shame, stalk, humiliate, endanger, or otherwise compromise the safety and security of ANY individual you have placed that person in a position of risk and you are in violation of ALL State Stalking laws
I CAN FIND THOSE PIECES OF INFORMATION USING GOOGLE SEARCH. IS THAT STILL RESTRICTED? YES. It is illegal to announce or disseminate or post those listed pieces of information for the purposes listed in the law (18 USC § 119). Those are purposes such as threatening or intimidating or making it so others can harass or harm the person. This law is about acts that endanger the safety of or encourage attacks against a person or a person’s family. It is not about where you found the information.
Thank you for the information. I should point out, however, that 18 USC § 119 only applies to specific people as defined in subsection (b)(2) – not to the general population. And Desiree doesn’t fit into any of those categories of “covered persons”.
Also, title 18 of the united states code is a US federal code – which only applies to conduct within the US. Since I’m not in the US I’m not bound by US laws.
Think about the “costs” of harm a judiciary or jury would have to consider: Having to move, live in fear, effects on children, move schools, emotional distress and actual financial costs from being Doxed are significant
This law is about acts that endanger the safety of, or encourage attacks against, a person or a person’s family. It is not about where you found the information.
18 USC § 119
The information may or may not even be on the internet; that is not a factor for a charge. A criminal act does not need to be physically possible for a charge to exist with regard to it. The activity can take the form of cyber-space and internet posting.
Doxing might also be part of a conspiracy to harm, endanger, or even kill a person. Even if unintentionally if the action of the party is intended to threaten, harass or harm.
Doxing is always illegal, whether it is done against a federal employee, a state employee, or a regular person. There are federal and state laws that specifically address doxing government employees 18 U.S.C. Sec 371 (18 U.S.C. Sec 119).
With regular non-governmental citizens, doxing falls under various state criminal laws, such as stalking, cyber stalking, harassment, threats, and other such laws, depending on the state.
Since these doxing threats and activities are made on the internet, the law of any state may be invoked, though most often an investigator will look to the state in which the person making the threat is located, if this is known, or the state in which the victim is situated.
A state prosecutor can only prosecute violations of the laws of his or her own state, and of acts that extend into their state.
However, when acts are on the internet, they extend into all the states. Thereby allowing the victim to choose the state of filing which may, or may not, be the state of residence for the victim(s) or perpetrator(s).
Increasingly with internet use, attorneys are affirming representation to the state with the strongest current legal remedies for Doxing, Cyber-Stalking, or Harassment
If you DO post someone’s personal information and if some harm comes to that person, you might also be charged with something related to that, possibly even with the crime itself.
For example, if you post someone’s address and then someone reads it and goes and kills that person or someone close to them, don’t be surprised if you are charged with murder, conspiracy to commit murder, or other actionable charges as outlined in 18 U.S.C. Sec 371 (18 U.S.C. Sec 119) b.
I hate to be argumentative, but none of that changes that fact that US laws do not apply to conduct outside the US. Since I am not in the US then I am not subject to US laws.
This is a great site. I admire your not backing down. So many just roll over. With truth as your friend you have nothing to fear. Bravo
You’re 100% correct and you’ve punished her royally. You won’t agree with me now at this stage and probably won’t until your son has become an adult, and she’s no longer in your life. When that happens, and she can no longer affect your life, you will feel pain over your present actions. Note that you won’t ever regret your actions because you all of a sudden think you made a mistake. No, that will never happen. The reason you will regret this is because later you will realize that your actions, are harming your family, friends and most importantly your son. Yes, your son may not be affected by this now but later once he matures and comes into an adult frame of mind, he will feel uncomfortable that his life is on display. The underlining problem is, you’re calling his mom, someone he can’t remove from his existence a loser, and are providing proof that she is.
I mean no disrespect, but when you are comfortable take this site down. I have scars older than your existence, and I would have wanted someone to tell me the above at the stage you are at.
BeenThere, I agree!! And, if he ever wants to have a future, he should take down the site before he ruins himself completely. When his son is old enough to find this site, he will probably lose all respect for his father!! I feel nauseated at the thought of ever meeting and getting involved with a sociopath!! I don’t think it has dawned on “Richard” yet that words can never be taken back, especially in the written form!!
So does this mean there’s no chance you and I will be able to go out some time?
Really, folks, the thought of never being able to “meet someone”, the thought of “being alone” for the rest of my life – just not a big deal to me. I’ve had relationships (other than Desiree, and many since Desiree) – I think they’re over rated; I’m not interested in “compromising” and “sacrificing” to “make it work” with someone. I’m entirely happy being alone. The rest of you can have your relationships and all that stuff that makes you happy – it’s just not for me.
That’s great then if you don’t plan on ever being involved, but in case you do, it would be something to consider though, I mean taking down this website. Your child will form his own opinions of both of you anyway based on what he sees for himself as he gets older. I know because when I was 34 my parents split up, and of course I took sides with the person who was right and innocent in the situation. To this day, 11 years later, I still feel the same way. I can’t forget the hurt that was caused, but Karma did come around without the hurt person being vindictive like you’re being. You don’t have to do this, all you have to do is sit back and watch, evil people create their own misery, they don’t need a website believe me. She will, and from the looks of it, is suffering without this website. If you’re in the right relationship it isn’t a sacrifice, and it’s not that hard to make it work 🙂
No, I don’t believe he will ever lose respect for his father over this. A part of him will want to but ultimately he will blame himself because he’s the underlining reason for the site – also he will remember that didn’t object to it at the time.
Removing her identifying information is in YOUR child’s best interest. I don’t even know you or your child or the mother but I cringed to see your child exposed to crazy pervs that look specifically for kids thag come from crazy homes with crazy PARENTS
Yes, I understand and I agree.
Patrick Fox you scumsucking sack of shit, fuck off and die.
Fucking hilarious! A few days ago everybody was calling Patrick a loser, to move on, blah blah blah… Now that they’ve truly seen the whole picture, or they shut up, or pull another thing to point their finger at ( now it looks like it’s the “you’ve put your son at danger with putting his mother’s address on the website” card). The truth shall set you free!
A-fucking-men to that, huh? The moment I posted that declaration onto the site all the harsh words just stopped!
But I wonder how things are going on Desiree’s end. I wonder if anybody has been expressing their disapproval that she publicly lied to thousands of people.
Silly men. People see she is crazy. But they also saw the immediate danger you put your son into. You keep writing like no one gets that she has issues. I think the vast majority do see it. But you publishing your sons adress was a far more urgent and pressing matter.
Really? Because I don’t remember many people mentioning that point until *after* I published that declaration proving that Desiree’s been lying to you all and you all suddenly realised you’ve been defending the wrong person – then suddenly everybody started making an deal out of how publishing her address potentially put my son in danger.
OOOO nooo I still think your just as crazy just as she is. It was alarming that your child info was published by you (his dad) putting him at serious risk. Now that you took it down, I think people will move on and let you guys hash it out.
Now you two crazy love birds keep on with your crazy , immature and unstable way of ruining each other’s lives possibly including ruining your sons life slowly.
The clear and present danger that outraged many has died down. You will still get your arm chair therapist, bible thumping people as well as low IQ men and women who will try to convert your or support you or whatever. But the intelligent people will slowly back out of it now the clear and present danger is gone.
Awesome story ! When will we see a movie with this drama?? Women like this are incredible !
Thanks.
I’m negotiating with Miramax as we speak, but I’m holding out for Scarlett Johansson to play Desiree and Colin Farrell to play me.
No people haven’t backed off or mived on Richard/Patrick. It’s a weekend & sorry to say people who see you as the suck narcissistic sicko you are actually have lives & rather go out & have fun with same friends than constantly all day troll this site. Also if you pretend to be supporters & post false support it just makes you all that more sick & desperate. Your day will come soon where you’ll have to face a court for your actions. Most rational thinking just gave really realized you’re an antisocial psychotic who really doesn’t feel bad for your actions nor will you ever take responsibility for your side. You view yourself as a victim. Far from the truth. You as much to blame for the outcome if not more. You’re behaviour has dictated your true character. It’s a waste of time trying to reason with your kind of crazy. You’re beyond help really. Ciao.
Is it true the RCMP took you in for questioning about this site but couldn’t find anything to charge you with? I hear the B.C. attorney general is looking into changing the law. Apparently, she wants to protect the reputations of drug users who snatch 10 year old children from their fathers using misandist laws.
Yes, the RCMP arrested me (based on Desiree’s allegations), interviewed me, investigated, then decided Desiree was full of shit and just trying to use a criminal harassment charge to try to get this website taken down.
The CBC tried to create the impression the Attorney General was considering changing the laws, but that’s just nonsense to get ratings/readers. No law is going to be changed because of this story being in the media.
Like I’ve said before I for one can attest to who sick,warped,and messed up Desiree is.I worked with her and James at Apollo before she was FIRED for missing work,coming to work high,doing drugs in the parking lot,and horrible work performance,plus the fact she didn’t get along with anyone here and nobody that I know of liked her.She used to come in reeking of the smell of pot,she though none of us noticed,uh,duh,we did ! I remember seeing here and he meth-head boyfriend on local TV after he was busted for stealing guns,using and selling meth,and she was still living with him while he was out on bail,he’s now serving a lot of years in prison for all this and all this time Desiree had both of her son’s living with her during all the drugs and guns and mess,yeah,what a model mom she is.Desiree told many of us at work that she didn’t really want another kid around,she likes drugging and going to bars,but that she was really trying to get back at Patrick the most and make him miserable,she really didn’t care about her son,or sons,because they always get in the way of her partying,drugging,and going to bars playing pool all, the time.I know we all at Apollo are glad she’s gone,as well as James,he was about worthless as well,but the time she worked here gave us all an good look to how screwed up this women ( ?) is !
I have viewed the website about your ex and I wanted to say that I can understand the frustration you are feeling, but there comes a time that things might be doing us more harm than good, and I think that website is doing more harm than good for you, and your son. I have been in a similar situation and I can relate to your feelings about this.
Like it or not, she is the mother of your child, and every child loves their mother unconditionally. Your son is going to see this website at some point and wonder why his dad would hurt his mom that way…no matter if it is the truth or not, your son will not like the fact that you are intentionally hurting his mother.
Any new relationships you form will be destroyed over this website, as any single woman that you might be interested in will not appreciate a website about your ex, it shows you are hung up on everything that has happened, and your ex. Yes, I realize you just want the truth out there, but to others’ it does not look that way. It looks like vengeance.
Please do yourself and your son a favor, remove the website, keep it private for your records only, take things through the courts, sure not everything is fair in the courts, but you must keep your integrity in tact if you want your son to respect you.
I feel sorry for your son, he is really caught in the middle and it seems nobody is really putting him first. I hope you can at least see how he might feel about the website that is intended to destroy his mother.
Take care Patrick, I hope you find it in yourself to rise above your ex, take the high road and ignore any comments she makes, cease contact with her, and move forward in life for you and your son. He will thank you for that Patrick.
“Accept the things you cannot change, change the things you can” – which is only yourself.
Keep up the great piece of work, I read several posts on this website and I think that your web blog is actually attention-grabbing and includes numerous outstanding information.
Patrick, thanks for recent email in reply to my first comment in regard to this website. I still maintain that you are several degrees off center. This website has nothing to offer in terms of the truth or the facts surrounding your obviously very troubled marriage and very troubled mind. You seriously need to get on with life.
You, as a father, wrote” A son that hates you because you’re a narcissistic fuck up leaves only you to blame. Patrick” and I am left to wonder who the he’ll do you think you are? Really. Who the hell are you other than a self centered, self serving, moronic degenerate with a truly misguided belief that you are blameless in this debacle and that you are somehow the only victim. You don’t deserve children and certainly are not of sound mind to guide or care for any child for that matter. You have yet to grow up yourself and the example you are setting here is testimony to the only fact that you’ll find anywhere on this horrible website. Grow up; its time to move on and take this terrible excuse of a website with you on your way to hell. You should be ashamed of yourself as I am sure YOUR parents are with you. They are likely (or certainly to be) very disappointed and disgusted with your behavior. This website is self serving, vile and disturbing and to think there are probably more people out there carrying on just like you at any given time is scary to say the least. Evidently you are a very weak individual to let someone get to you ghee way you have let your wife to get under your skin.
It’s time for you to straighten out your spine and move on in life because at the end of the day no one really gives a shit about you or your situation. It’s neither that extraordinary or exciting to read, watch or listen to. Grow up daddy and give your child half a chance at some normalcy before you lose that precious life as well.
Why are you not leading by example? Your ship hit the reef a long time ago and you played as much a role in that as did your wife. The only question that needs an answer is; what you are going to do to save your child because this is so harmful you can’t see straight…not that you could ever see straight I suppose.