Desiree Capuano - Enjoying the good life
I gotta tell ya, kids: Life is pretty good.
I've finally done it. I've secured a sweet, cushy deal where my man will support me and my kids forever, while I sit around and do nothing but get high.
Don't worry, I can say whatever I want about that pussy whipped bitch James Pendleton on this website. He's so blinded by my skillful manipulation he'll just blame everything on my ex-husband, Fox. Do you think James' friends and family haven't already tried to warn him about me? Do you think they haven't urged him to open his eyes and realize he's being taken?
Nah, as James reads this post - and he will read this post, he reads all of the posts that go on this site - there will be that little part of his brain that will be telling him: "Dude, it's true. You're being taken for the fool. You're being played. Nothing this woman tells you has an ounce of sincerity." And he'll have thoughts of confronting me on things. But he won't. And even if he does, I'll just turn on the tears and the sobbing; I'll tell him how every man before him has been terrible to, abused me, taken advantage of trust and my caring nature; that he, James, is the first man I've ever truly loved and that's been good to me. And he'll eat it up - they always do.
There's only been one man that I've been with that eventually saw through my crap and kicked me to the curb - and that was 13 years ago. I've learned a lot since then. I've perfected my skills of manipulation. No, James will not accept any truth or reality that I'm manipulating him and taking advantage of him. I am completely safe in that respect.
Many years ago, when I was with Fox, he was on my case to get a job. I used to drop our son off at the day care then hang out there for hours, socializing with the woman that owned the place. I would tell Fox I had been looking for a job, but that with no experience it was hard. In reality, I never went to a single interview.
Now, I have this website to blame for why I can't find a job. Sure, I tell James I'm looking for one; I pretend to go on interviews. But as long as this website is on the Internet I can always blame my lack of a job on Fox (he is, after all, the person maintaining this website and putting all this horrendous stuff about me on the Internet).
Do you really think it's a coincidence that before I moved in with James and James started getting on my case to do something about this website, that I did nothing at all about it? Do you have any idea how much pity I get from people about this website? It amazes me how easily people believe me when I tell them everything on this website is lies - even though Fox posts actual, hard proof of the things I tell people are lies! It's amazing how easily I manipulate people.
So, for now, and for the foreseeable future, there is nothing in the world that is going to be able to interfere with my riding this gravy train to the end. Sure, eventually James is going to wise up, but until that time comes I will milk this for everything I can. I will spend my days smoking weed, sitting around, and whenever it looks like James might be having second thoughts, I'll pretend to be moody and stressed out, and when he asks what's wrong, I'll cry and tell him I just can't handle it anymore; I'm so tired of having to deal with everything; I've never done anything bad to anybody but people just want to keep hurting me. I'll tell him I love him so much and I'm so happy that I'm with him and that he's the only good thing in my life. And, as always, he'll swallow every phony, bullshit word of it.
Sound familiar?
But, I'm not completely foolish. I always make sure I've got at least one other man lined up on the side for when my current ride comes to an end. I can usually tell the signs when someone's reaching the breaking point with me. Good thing James doesn't check my emails or my phone logs. Could you imagine if he secretly hid a GPS tracker in my car? Nevertheless, I'd just tell him me and that other guy are just friends. I'd tell him there are things I can't talk to him (James) about because I'm ashamed and I don't want him to hate me.
Yes, life is pretty good.
Nice. Yes I wonder what James would learn by talking to this whores ex boyfriends.
Her Facebook page is full of pictures of Kris and Michael. She still has posts on it saying how much she loves Kris. Yet she’s been living with James more than 6 months. She’s obviously using James for support and a place to live. He’s supporting her and her kids. This woman is the biggest whore I’ve ever known. If I was James I’d kick this bitch out right now. Her kids aren’t his problem and he doesn’t owe her or them a single thing.
James won’t ever kick her out. He has no self esteem and no chance of ever getting a girl that will actually like him. He’s kind of a loser.
Someone here at Apollo who spoke to her recently says she still doesn’t have a job after all these months and no prospect of getting one either. Desiree said she isn’t really looking for a job and isn’t in any hurry to get one until she has to. I guess James loves supporting her and other men’s children, we here at Apollo knew she was whacked, but didn’t think James was just as messed up! Some here were laughing that we should take bets on how long it will take for her to get a job, some were saying 1-2 years most likely, I said never as long as James keeps her.
There is still a chance to earn a living by becoming a star in niche porn, like Veronica Moser or Julia Reaves.
I’ve read through quite a few of the emails and I’m a little more sympathetic to your side than when I initially heard this story. I have an ex and his wife is not very educated, is racist, is manipulative, and has come between me and my kids. I know how it feels to not be able to see my kids as much as I’d like, and to have been lied to and tricked so that I don’t have them full time, and to have them want to live with me despite seeing me so relatively little compared to before. It’s natural to be driven to the point of madness over having little access to your kids. And to be furious.
But all this harm that you think you’re doing only to Desiree, you’re doing to your son. You know that if you were both living in Canada, and she could get Legal Aid services to help her, that you would be scolded and penalized for all of your harassment, your threats, and all of the things you’ve said and done that add up to parental alienation. You’re trying to get your son to hate his mom. Even if you were to say to him, “I don’t want you to hate your mom,” it wouldn’t be believable with everything else you’ve done. It would be a manipulation tactic to trick him into thinking you are a good guy.
Even if all the things you are saying about Desiree are true, and your anger is 100% justified, you still come off looking like the bad guy here for a few reasons. And I’m afraid that one of the reasons might be above your head. You might not be smart and educated enough to understand, and you’ll just be defensive and a typical dude.
What I do think you’ll be able to understand is that you look fucking crazy. In the CBC video, you are shaking and awkward and twitchy and you look like you have a severe mental health problem. Your son will see this and think, Geez, my dad is really sick, and no wonder my mom has felt beside herself with stress and fear and anxiety.
Next, it’s clear that you are a straight-up bully. You are the definition of the word. So, you’re creating this easy narrative of a guy who bullied his wife, belittled her, accused her and picked fights with her when she didn’t work to get a job instead of supporting her and trying to empathize with her lack of self-confidence, and then when that eroded her confidence more, and she’s just been trying to get by as a human who is capable of giving to her son without having her own needs met, you attack her more. That is how you look. This is the story you’ve written. Anyone knowing anything about human psychology can see that this narrative makes the most sense.
Because there are two things you don’t seem to understand, though you like to think yourself so goddamn intelligent, despite misspelling words all over your website (dude: it’s SUPREMACIST), are, 1. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, and 2. power vs. oppression and how it impacts us.
According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, Desiree cannot attain the self-actualization you damn her for not having, until her other basic needs are met. You blame her for not finding a job, while you’ve launched psychological warfare on her for years, knowingly, trying to erode her self-esteem, which would make it very difficult for her to get a job. It IS hard to get a job with no experience and even self-confident and experienced people find themselves worn down and depressed after being rejected multiple times, taking it personally when it’s all circumstantial.
She smokes pot? So what? You’re trying to capitalize on a stigma that doesn’t really exist anymore. From Vancouver! Where most people smoke pot! Pot helps people with anxiety and you’re giving her anxiety. If smoking pot is the worst of how she copes, she’s doing pretty good. She hasn’t hired anyone to set you on fire yet, has she? The whole internet will be conspiring now to hurt you. Imagine if you had no tongue and no hands? How would you continue this website? How would you hire someone to hurt her? Maybe you should be thankful and calm the fuck down over her smoking pot.
She was a stripper? Again, so what?
This brings us to the discussion about power vs. oppression, that will go over your entitled white male head.
Boys are raised differently than girls. They are raised to believe that they are in-born leaders, that they are smart, that they can do anything. Girls are raised to hate their bodies and to compare themselves and to compete.
The reason that you can get by with a grade 8 education, if you aren’t lying to employers about having a degree that you don’t, is that you get by on positive assumptions that are made about men but aren’t about women. You look like a leader, just by being a white man, who is at least averagely attractive by most people’s standards (I think you look like a troll doll with dwarfism, but that’s just me).
She has been given one power by society: her sexuality. Everything else she has to fight for. And it’s exhausting for all women but especially for women who don’t have a support network.
She is having to fight to love herself enough and see herself as worthy enough in this world despite having a shitty mother who hurt her, according to you, and despite having you to deal with. If she can do that in any degree, she is a fucking hero.
You need to go take a gender studies course so that you can understand the world that women live in, so different from your world. Will your arrogance and typical male self-defence mechanisms let you do this? Highly doubtful. You can even just begin your education on your own, online. But you’ll probably wind up in some Men’s Rights group believing that women should all be raped and killed, because, your cognitive reasoning skills are so top notch.
You are making an easy victim out of Desiree. And you’re trying to get your son to hate his mom. He is feeling torn and confused and how is that going to help him in school? How is he not going to use drugs to numb the pain and confusion he feels? You think you’ll be able to shame him out of it? Nope! You think you’ll be able to blame his drug use on his mom as an example? Both my parents did drugs and I never have.
The best thing you can do for your son and for your case as the hero of this story who has been unfairly maligned and cast to the north, is leave her alone. Let her have space. If she continues to self-destruct, then your son will believe you that you’re just pointing out how the emperor has no clothes. But… are you afraid of her recovering? Thriving? NOT wanting to kill herself? If so, that only goes to prove that you’re the bad guy here, and she’s an innocent victim.
And if she does kill herself, your son will see her as a victim. And he will be torn up for the rest of his life. If you don’t think this is true, you’re not as educated as you like to think.
Damn Ellen, we’ll give you a job at the clinic!
While I laud your attempt to provide Patrick with insight, I’m afraid that even were he educated enough to have learned the ability to question, and format oppositional queries to his own beliefs in order to evolve, his sociopathy prevents him from having any empathy whatsoever.
In a fashion typical of sociopaths, he believes himself a victim; he has no insight into his own feelings (if he has any that are fully developed); he bullies others in an attempt to resolve his own deep-seated insecurity; he believes himself to be smarter than he actually is, and much smarter than other people; and he has no interest in personal evolution. He basically won’t care what you say, except to prove to you that 1) your criticisms are wrong, and 2) he’s much more clever than you are.
This isn’t a comprehensive list, but enough to give you the picture.
It doesn’t surprise me to learn he only has a Grade 8 education. He clearly hasn’t learned even the rudimentary critical thinking taught in high school, and in a debate he would be eclipsed by any decent college student. He must feel incredibly intellectually inferior to Desiree, which would certainly contribute to his jealousy of her and his rage.
Thanks for your thoughts, they were great to read and I hope Richard isn’t so cowardly that he takes them down. Most other honest commentary seems to disappear, leaving the Richard and the misogynists crowded together hoping the world will read their foolish nonsense and be convinced penis size matters more than intellect.
No one can tell from reading this blog who Desiree C is, the only thing we can tell is that Patrick Fox is a sociopathic individual with incredibly poor personal coping skills. People with victim mentalities always make up terrible stories about all the other people in the world, because in their minds, Everyone will victimize them somehow, in order to keep perpetuating their victimhood. What a disturbing way to choose to engage with society, but ironically, for those like Patrick Fox, who has publicly stated he doesn’t like other people and doesn’t get along with them, it’s a strategy to provide a boost of confidence. Inside, he feels worthless, he has no real confidence in himself as a father, which is why he speaks to his son as though they’re peers; he doesn’t have a clue how to provide proper guidance to a child. He has no confidence in himself as a sexual being; he’s not physically attractive in any way (so I’m told by many female friends, lol) and he comes across as a sort of lunatic misogynist. (there’s interesting talk at the water cooler at work that his simultaneous hatred of and attempts at psychological affinity with Desiree through his blog, indicate latent transgendered tendencies, likely completely supressed due to shame, and resulting in ever further obsession with the Ex – a cycle he can’t break free of, especially due to his sociopathic bent.) And if he’s gay, well, that would explain the complete misogyny in his blog and his televised demeanor. He has no confidence in himself as a man; examine the manner in which he paraded himself on television, sweaty, dissheveled looking, nervous, all while boasting about wanting his wife dead – to “normal” (able to function normally within society) people his appearance and words are grotesque (thanks to CBC for setting up the shot that way – brilliant!) and yet he claims he was fantastic. Well, he knows deep down inside he didn’t do a good job on the show and he’s held himself up to scrutiny and ridicule. His need for attention is so huge that he’ll soak up every bit of attention, good, bad, and ugly. He’ll never understand the ugly, because he thinks he’s put up a great show of convincing people he’s a great guy, in order to hide the sense of inferiority that eats at his subconscious every day. Typical Personality Disorder. He’ll carry with him a sense of disbelief that all these people in the world now see him for who his subconscious see himself to be: less than, and very, very angry about it.
This guy is a textbook case of sociopathology and personality disorder. There’s no mystery here about why he won’t try to get along with his wife.
I think this is wayyy to fucking funny. cuddo’s to the psyco who knows the legal system. and that bitch is no more fucked than any other turtle that ends up on there back ‘