On Thu, Mar 29, 2012, 11:04 AM, Patrick Fox wrote:
Desiree:
I thought I should clarify, a bit better, the reasoning of my last
email.
I accept that there will be things that Gabriel might not feel
comfortable talking to me about. And that he may say something because
he believes it is important to me - even though it might not be what he
really wants. He may, then, speak freely with you about it because he
knows it is not significant to you. If that were to happen I would hope
that you would inform me of what he expressed to you so that I can know
how he really feels about something. Of course, this applies only to
things that are not said in confidence - I don't expect you to tell me
things he tells you in confidence, nor would I tell you such.
For example, on the topic of religion, he may express interest to me
because he knows it is important to me. But in reality, maybe he
doesn't really care. If when he's in Phoenix he states that he doesn't
want to be Jewish then I would hope that you would inform me of that so
that I act accordingly (unless he instructs you not to tell me).
At the same time, we must accept that he may tell you he doesn't want to
be Jewish because he thinks it's what YOU want to hear. And tell me he
does because he thinks it's what I want to hear.
Fox
On Thu, Mar 29, 2012, 12:48 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
That makes sense and I agree with opening those lines of communication. He
has expressed his interest in your religion and I support that entirely. I
have no interest in pushing any sort of religion and will support anything
he is interested in. In fact, the only topic of conversation that differs
from what you say is whether he wants to continue to come here to visit.
You say he has no interest, he tells me he does.
On Thu, Mar 29, 2012, 12:56 PM, Patrick Fox wrote:
Desiree:
I used religion as a hypothetical example. I was speaking abstractly.
As for your assertion that he tells you he wants to go there and tells
me he doesn't that is exactly the problem I am attempting to resolve
(again, I'm speaking abstractly and I'm referring to the possibility of
him making conflicting statements to the both of us). But as I said, if
he disagrees with anything I wrote I'm sure he will send you an email or
call you to tell you. We have to be careful about what he says to our
faces when put on the spot because that is when he would feel
uncomfortable and likely to say what he thinks we want to hear (more so
in your case because I don't get emotional and cry when he says
something I don't want to hear).
Fox
