Mother's Day
Desiree: Gabriel informed me last night that you were upset because he hadn't called on Sunday to wish you happy Mother's Day. And that that was the reason for Kristopher's text messages to Liz's phone on Sunday night. I respectfully suggest, in the future, that if any given occasion is significant to you that you let me or Gabriel know in advance so that he can make an effort to not disregard it. With respect to Mother's/Father's Day, in particular, my own opinion of them is that a person should not expect a day of recognition or a pat on the back for simply doing their duty - which is to raise their children as best they can. A parent's reward should be to see their child grow up well adjusted, with dignity, respectfully, and honorably, and to become a productive, independent, intelligent, ambitious and motivated person, and to be fair and reasonable, and to be emotionally and psychologically stable. For that reason, I do not observe Father's Day. By default, I assume other intelligent, free thinking people would hold the same (or similar) opinions. Therefore, I (and probably Gabriel, as well) had assumed that you would not observe Mother's Day. Are you suggesting that we should observe the traditions that you observe, even though they may be contrary to our own beliefs? Will you do likewise? Did you call to wish him happy Hanukkah, will you join us for Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur or Gabriel's graduation ceremony? You haven't even inquired about his last, or second last report cards. Did you respect his belief in, and desire to participate in Passover (in fact, you ordered pizza right as Passover began causing him to violate it). Why would you expect other people who do not observe some tradition to put their beliefs aside because you observe that tradition? I don't believe, however, that any of that justifies Kristopher's messages. To begin with he was so vague that I had no idea what he was referring to. I assumed he found out that the MCAO finally filed their Direct Complaint or Indictment against him and he assumed I had something to do with it. Or that you had failed a drug test and were somehow blaming me for it. Anyway, I still don't see the connection between being Jewish and failing to wish you a happy Mother's Day. I also don't see how Gabriel not calling you on Mother's Day is any kind of sin. There is no commandment to wish one's mother happy Mother's Day. That is why I think he's mildly retarded (I'm not being sarcastic, I really do think that)? Fox
Sorry, no failed drug test and no news of an inditement. Where do you come up with such defamatory assumptions?
Again, this sounds like Kristopher. Nevertheless, I would consider successful completion of TASC a good thing. An assumption cannot be defamatory. Defamation requires some explicit action. I don't think that you should apologize for not failing a drug test. I suspect that you're being sarcastic, however, since there was nothing adversarial in my email I cannot fathom why you would respond with sarcasm. That just doesn't make sense to me. Apparently, you believe the intent of my email was confrontational. Why would you think that? How could you have possibly read anything confrontational into it? If you have a moment, please point out what statements you found confrontational. I would appreciate that because the problem is the way I am phrasing things. Maybe I'm not being tactful enough. You are correct, there is not any news on the indictment yet. They would first file what's called a Direct Complaint. The indictment would follow that. The case was assigned to Detective Reid Watson, who was busy on another case at the time. The case ended up in the queue where it apparently languished for some time. Det. Watson had recently reviewed the case and it has been forwarded by him to the MCAO for prosecution. According to the MCAO they have not yet commenced prosecution but based on the police reports, evidence and the defendant's record they intend to do so. It may take a couple of months. This was as of two weeks ago. That is where I come up with the so called "defamatory assumptions". If you would like any further information on the cases you are free to contact Det. Watson or the MCAO. Fox
You know what, actually, disregard my statements about Kristopher's case in my last email. If you are concerned about the status of the case I'm sure you would look into it yourself and you don't need or want my help. Forget I said anything. Fox
Desiree: And, I would like to follow up on this one, as well. If you continued using marijuana during TASC then didn't you, technically, fail all of your tests? Just that (according to you) it couldn't be held against you? Further, you ask, where do I get such defamatory assumptions. By your own admission you continued using marijuana during your TASC participation - therefore, it would seem, my assumption was correct, wasn't it? Fox
I wouldn't expect you to care that for the first mothers day ever Gabriel actually knows his mother...just thought he might. All of your diatribe is really exsaulting but I'm pretty sure I'd get a ration of shit from all of you if I didn't "put significance" on Gabriel's birthday or Christmas. Just another example of the severely weighted conditions you're attempting to impose.
Desiree: First, your response sounds incredibly like Kristopher. For that reason I will not bother to respond, other than the following: Why do you always turn everything into an argument? There was no diatribe. There were no conditions? All I said was that if you want Gabriel to call you on the occasions that are significant to you then you should let him know which occasions those are. Otherwise, how else would he know that you care about them? If you really wanted to hear from Gabriel on Sunday then why didn't you let him know that Mother's Day was important to you? That is not critical. I was trying to help you. Can you please show me which statements in my previous email could be considered a diatribe? Or exactly where I was giving you a "ration of shit"? And why is it that you only respond to emails that you think are confrontational? Why do you not respond to any of my emails attempting to work things out or improve the situation? I'm thinking, maybe you don't know what "diatribe" means. It's "a bitter, sharply abusive denunciation, attack, or criticism" (from dictionary.reference.com). I fail to see how my email can be called a diatribe. (That is part of the reason I think the response is from Kristopher - I'm sure Desiree would not use a word like "diatribe" incorrectly.) Why don't you try this: If you really want to find out where Gabriel stands all you have to do is tell him that you can't afford to bring him out there for Memorial Day or for the summer, and note his response. See if he seems at all upset. I doubt you would do that, though, because I believe that deep inside you know that he would not be upset. If you wish to submit a reasonable response that actually addresses any of the points, and you wish to discuss something like civilized, rational adults then I will. But, this paranoid drivel of yours is just a waste of everybody's time. Good day. Fox
Desiree: Thought I'd follow up on this email from May 17. You said that you were pretty sure you'd get a ration of shit from all of me if you didn't "put significance" on Gabriel's birthday. So, you now know that's not correct and, in fact, nobody (including Gabriel) seemed to care that you missed his birthday. One less thing for you to worry about. Perhaps the conditions are not as "weighted" as you perceive them. Fox