Wow her info in her response is extensive and a bit much. I will say though being a resident of Ontario for the last 30yrs, any child under the age of 18 is considered a minor child under the law and within the Children’s Aid Society. Everyone needs to look at what is best for the child. I’m sure living with his mom he has lots of friends that he wouldn’t want to part ways with in living with dad. The on,y viable solution I see is ask the child what he wants or request that mom move to Canada so that the child can have more contact with dad.
It’s honestly very sad that the pair of you can’t set aside your differences to benefit the health and well being of your son who ultimately is paying the price. If he doesn’t get thorough counselling now I fear he may end up turning to drugs or alcohol to cope because a person can only take so much before they reach a breaking point, and if your son hasn’t reached that point yet he will in the near future.
Think about his needs and wants before considering your own needs and wants. I really wish you all had appeared on Dr.Phil, it may have given you all an opportunity to work through this like mature adults and set a positive example and be good role models for your son. Good Luck, I wish you the very best
Thank you for the reply, Tara – and for taking the time to review some of the supporting documents. Most people just listen to what the news tells them, and assume that’s the whole, unbiased story.
Anyway, our son doesn’t want to be with her. He wants nothing to do with her. She very psychologically disturbed and he’s having a difficult time in that environment.
We have a custody hearing on Monday, and hopefully the court finally realizes how full of crap she is (as you can see from my reply to her response – almost everything she said in her declaration was false).
Someone who use character assassination as a weapon to destroy another person is not worth ones time.
If this man considers himself a nice and polite Canadian I don’t know what an evil, vindictive Canadian sounds like.
I fear the father’s hatred towards his child’s mother will be shown every day if the child ends up in Canada. Some people seem to never grow up. If both parents are as bad as this site say, the child should be taken away from both and adopted by people who will put the child’s interest/wellbeing first.
It’s easy making a child, it’s hard raising a child to be a good person. This child could be damaged by both parents, he’s the most important person in this.
I’m not sure that publishing the truth about someone is really “character assassination”. If it was then there’d be no news media.
I don’t consider myself a Canadian – polite, or otherwise. My birth certificate states I was born in the US, and I haven’t made any claim of being Canadian.
Why do you automatically assume my son’s opinion of Desiree is any different than mine? Why do you refuse to believe that every day he’s with her is anything other than a torturous nightmare and he’s just waiting for the day he can come back home? He told the family court, in his own words, that he doesn’t want to be with her.
Why do so many people assume that children are incapable of having their own thoughts and opinions?
This is the www you can write anything you feel like and try to convince people you are the one telling the truth. No matter how flat you make a pancake it still has two sides. (Dr. Phil)
As Tara (above) suggested you should contact the Dr. Phil show, he’ll get to the truth. I would watch that show, let me know when you all will be on.
When a person’s (mine) statements of truth are backed up with things like Desiree’s own sworn testimony in the family court, the audio recordings of her testimony at the order of protection hearing in December 2015, her own statements to various police agencies, et cetera, then it’s not really me “trying to convince people”, as you say. At that point it’s simply the unquestionable truth.
Anybody who would look at all that evidence against Desiree, evidence which completely supports my statements, yet still believe this is a case of “he said, she said” is clearly either in denial or is delusional.
As for the Dr. Phil Show: The producer from the show did contact both me and Desiree back on February 29, 2016. We both agreed to be on the show, and CBS went through the effort of making all the arrangements. Then, on March 2, 2015, Desiree backed out of doing the show. She didn’t provide a reason, but I think it’s pretty clear it was because by that point there was so much proof published that she had lied about everything that the public (and the folks from the Dr. Phil Show) had turned against her. I wrote a blog post about it: Desiree Backs Out of Doing the Dr. Phil Show.
I would love to. But, unfortunately, without Desiree there isn’t very much “entertainment value”. They wanted us both on at the same time so that they can get to the bottom of what really happened and who really did what.
They also wanted to speak with our son, and Desiree realized that he was going to say, on national television, that he didn’t want to be with her.
I believe they wanted to be able to put us both on the spot – to ask us the “tough” questions, while on camera and in front of a live audience. That way neither of us could backtrack. Also, I’m pretty sure they wanted to be able to get our reactions to the proof that what we had said in the previous interviews was false. Obviously, when I say “we” in this sense, I mean Desiree – there has not been any evidence offered that anything I have said has been false. I’m not saying I’ve never lied – I’m just not dumb enough to lie on camera, on the news, or on this website.
If the Dr. Phil Show were to only use the existing video of Desiree, then they wouldn’t be able to confront her about her allegations. And that’s what sells – exposing the person live, on camera.
Yes, I’m 100% positive our son is mine. But even if he wasn’t my offspring, biologically, he’s always known me as his father, so it would be unthinkable to turn him away. I true father is the person that raises the child – not the person that provided the sperm. So, biology aside, I have a moral obligation to him, as the person he considers his father, to do everything I can to be a parent he can rely on and who would never turn him away.
And, while a lot of people think this website is only harming me in the family court, I don’t believe the family court has any intention of returning custody to me since I’ve been deported from the US. I believe the only way I (or anyone) can fight a person like Desiree – a sociopathic, compulsive liar who can so easily manipulate people – is to publicly expose them using their own lies and horrendous acts. That is what this website aims to do.
Your story is very fascinating to me not only in itself, but also because there are so many resemblances to my own. My wife (we are legally separated, but not divorced) has so much in common with yours. She is American, a drug abuser, has psychological problems, lies all the time, is very manipulative and is extremely promiscuous changing partners like underwear. In fact it seems that their personalities are virtually identical.
It doesn’t stop there. When our son was six, she started a campaign to discredit me and accused me of all kinds of false charges, while in truth she was the one actually doing those things. She then proceeded to kidnap my son and disappear with him. She also managed to convince a (female) police officer to break into my residence (while I was at work) and steal a lot of valuables (mine). She was basically holding my son for ransom. Initially, I could only contact her via her cell phone (which I paid for), but eventually, she had the number changed, once she realized that I wasn’t going to play her game. At that point I had court papers drawn up to give me custody, but I had to find her and have her served, which I did with the help of a private investigator (she was actually served only two hours before the case commenced). Of course, she didn’t show up in court, but rather used the opportunity to find another hiding place. Of course, I was given full custody, but I had to find her again to have it served, which took another couple of weeks and a lot of money.
Once I got my son back she continuously harassed me and eventually found where my son was going to school and caused many problems there until the police arrested her and read her the riot act. Interestingly, although my son spent the majority of his time with her previously (I worked and she didn’t), he really didn’t want to have anything to do with her. If she phoned I had to convince him to talk to her and eventually, he just refused to do even that.
That all happened when he was six. Now he is seventeen and hasn’t seen her since. Further more, he has no interest in her and never even brings her up in conversation.
Just for your information, in Canada I know that once a minor has reached the age of 16 they have the right to choose which parent they want to live with. This may come in handy for you at some point in time.
It is interesting that the majority of people still support mothers without question when they are in disputes of this kind with fathers even though there are a substantive number of totally inadequate mothers out there. I commend you on your perseverance in your battle and truly hope that you can finally re-establish the custody you want and he needs.
I found this web site as a result of seeing the article on CBC’s site. It is amazing how biased the reporting was, but after all it is CBC and they have an agenda (white males are the scourge of the Earth). The reporter obviously didn’t even read anything of substance on the web site, before reporting. What is most disturbing is that we (Canadians) actually pay for the CBC.
Wow her info in her response is extensive and a bit much. I will say though being a resident of Ontario for the last 30yrs, any child under the age of 18 is considered a minor child under the law and within the Children’s Aid Society. Everyone needs to look at what is best for the child. I’m sure living with his mom he has lots of friends that he wouldn’t want to part ways with in living with dad. The on,y viable solution I see is ask the child what he wants or request that mom move to Canada so that the child can have more contact with dad.
It’s honestly very sad that the pair of you can’t set aside your differences to benefit the health and well being of your son who ultimately is paying the price. If he doesn’t get thorough counselling now I fear he may end up turning to drugs or alcohol to cope because a person can only take so much before they reach a breaking point, and if your son hasn’t reached that point yet he will in the near future.
Think about his needs and wants before considering your own needs and wants. I really wish you all had appeared on Dr.Phil, it may have given you all an opportunity to work through this like mature adults and set a positive example and be good role models for your son. Good Luck, I wish you the very best
Thank you for the reply, Tara – and for taking the time to review some of the supporting documents. Most people just listen to what the news tells them, and assume that’s the whole, unbiased story.
Anyway, our son doesn’t want to be with her. He wants nothing to do with her. She very psychologically disturbed and he’s having a difficult time in that environment.
We have a custody hearing on Monday, and hopefully the court finally realizes how full of crap she is (as you can see from my reply to her response – almost everything she said in her declaration was false).
Cheers!
Someone who use character assassination as a weapon to destroy another person is not worth ones time.
If this man considers himself a nice and polite Canadian I don’t know what an evil, vindictive Canadian sounds like.
I fear the father’s hatred towards his child’s mother will be shown every day if the child ends up in Canada. Some people seem to never grow up. If both parents are as bad as this site say, the child should be taken away from both and adopted by people who will put the child’s interest/wellbeing first.
It’s easy making a child, it’s hard raising a child to be a good person. This child could be damaged by both parents, he’s the most important person in this.
I’m not sure that publishing the truth about someone is really “character assassination”. If it was then there’d be no news media.
I don’t consider myself a Canadian – polite, or otherwise. My birth certificate states I was born in the US, and I haven’t made any claim of being Canadian.
Why do you automatically assume my son’s opinion of Desiree is any different than mine? Why do you refuse to believe that every day he’s with her is anything other than a torturous nightmare and he’s just waiting for the day he can come back home? He told the family court, in his own words, that he doesn’t want to be with her.
Why do so many people assume that children are incapable of having their own thoughts and opinions?
This is the www you can write anything you feel like and try to convince people you are the one telling the truth. No matter how flat you make a pancake it still has two sides. (Dr. Phil)
As Tara (above) suggested you should contact the Dr. Phil show, he’ll get to the truth. I would watch that show, let me know when you all will be on.
When a person’s (mine) statements of truth are backed up with things like Desiree’s own sworn testimony in the family court, the audio recordings of her testimony at the order of protection hearing in December 2015, her own statements to various police agencies, et cetera, then it’s not really me “trying to convince people”, as you say. At that point it’s simply the unquestionable truth.
Anybody who would look at all that evidence against Desiree, evidence which completely supports my statements, yet still believe this is a case of “he said, she said” is clearly either in denial or is delusional.
As for the Dr. Phil Show: The producer from the show did contact both me and Desiree back on February 29, 2016. We both agreed to be on the show, and CBS went through the effort of making all the arrangements. Then, on March 2, 2015, Desiree backed out of doing the show. She didn’t provide a reason, but I think it’s pretty clear it was because by that point there was so much proof published that she had lied about everything that the public (and the folks from the Dr. Phil Show) had turned against her. I wrote a blog post about it: Desiree Backs Out of Doing the Dr. Phil Show.
YOU can still go on the Dr. Phil show and make your case.
I would love to. But, unfortunately, without Desiree there isn’t very much “entertainment value”. They wanted us both on at the same time so that they can get to the bottom of what really happened and who really did what.
They also wanted to speak with our son, and Desiree realized that he was going to say, on national television, that he didn’t want to be with her.
There already is a show, as far as I know, why can they not refer to that if she will not come?
Another question. If she is as bad as you write she is are you 150% sure the child is yours not someone else’s, that would be a bummer.
Hope the best for the child.
I believe they wanted to be able to put us both on the spot – to ask us the “tough” questions, while on camera and in front of a live audience. That way neither of us could backtrack. Also, I’m pretty sure they wanted to be able to get our reactions to the proof that what we had said in the previous interviews was false. Obviously, when I say “we” in this sense, I mean Desiree – there has not been any evidence offered that anything I have said has been false. I’m not saying I’ve never lied – I’m just not dumb enough to lie on camera, on the news, or on this website.
If the Dr. Phil Show were to only use the existing video of Desiree, then they wouldn’t be able to confront her about her allegations. And that’s what sells – exposing the person live, on camera.
Yes, I’m 100% positive our son is mine. But even if he wasn’t my offspring, biologically, he’s always known me as his father, so it would be unthinkable to turn him away. I true father is the person that raises the child – not the person that provided the sperm. So, biology aside, I have a moral obligation to him, as the person he considers his father, to do everything I can to be a parent he can rely on and who would never turn him away.
And, while a lot of people think this website is only harming me in the family court, I don’t believe the family court has any intention of returning custody to me since I’ve been deported from the US. I believe the only way I (or anyone) can fight a person like Desiree – a sociopathic, compulsive liar who can so easily manipulate people – is to publicly expose them using their own lies and horrendous acts. That is what this website aims to do.
I agree that the press does not report the whole truth. I agree the court should let the kid decide.
Hi Patrick:
Your story is very fascinating to me not only in itself, but also because there are so many resemblances to my own. My wife (we are legally separated, but not divorced) has so much in common with yours. She is American, a drug abuser, has psychological problems, lies all the time, is very manipulative and is extremely promiscuous changing partners like underwear. In fact it seems that their personalities are virtually identical.
It doesn’t stop there. When our son was six, she started a campaign to discredit me and accused me of all kinds of false charges, while in truth she was the one actually doing those things. She then proceeded to kidnap my son and disappear with him. She also managed to convince a (female) police officer to break into my residence (while I was at work) and steal a lot of valuables (mine). She was basically holding my son for ransom. Initially, I could only contact her via her cell phone (which I paid for), but eventually, she had the number changed, once she realized that I wasn’t going to play her game. At that point I had court papers drawn up to give me custody, but I had to find her and have her served, which I did with the help of a private investigator (she was actually served only two hours before the case commenced). Of course, she didn’t show up in court, but rather used the opportunity to find another hiding place. Of course, I was given full custody, but I had to find her again to have it served, which took another couple of weeks and a lot of money.
Once I got my son back she continuously harassed me and eventually found where my son was going to school and caused many problems there until the police arrested her and read her the riot act. Interestingly, although my son spent the majority of his time with her previously (I worked and she didn’t), he really didn’t want to have anything to do with her. If she phoned I had to convince him to talk to her and eventually, he just refused to do even that.
That all happened when he was six. Now he is seventeen and hasn’t seen her since. Further more, he has no interest in her and never even brings her up in conversation.
Just for your information, in Canada I know that once a minor has reached the age of 16 they have the right to choose which parent they want to live with. This may come in handy for you at some point in time.
It is interesting that the majority of people still support mothers without question when they are in disputes of this kind with fathers even though there are a substantive number of totally inadequate mothers out there. I commend you on your perseverance in your battle and truly hope that you can finally re-establish the custody you want and he needs.
Good luck,
Jim
Thanks for the feedback, Jim. I’m glad things worked out for you after all that.
Hi Patrick:
I found this web site as a result of seeing the article on CBC’s site. It is amazing how biased the reporting was, but after all it is CBC and they have an agenda (white males are the scourge of the Earth). The reporter obviously didn’t even read anything of substance on the web site, before reporting. What is most disturbing is that we (Canadians) actually pay for the CBC.
Welcome to Canada.
Jim