One point which was conspicuously excluded from all of the media coverage and which is covered extensively on this site but which everybody seems to have missed, is that in August 2011 I abducted our son from Los Angeles, from my ex-husband (Fox's) care, took him back to Arizona, then tried to get custody of him. I failed but it still took 3 months to get him back home through the courts.
After that experience Fox had a long discussion with our son, explaining that there is the possible something like this might happen again and they need to be better prepared for it.
Fox and our son had known that I had been listening to their telephone calls while I had him in Arizona in 2011, so they worked out some codes or signals that they could use to communicate without me knowing. They worked out a scheme, using the frequency of mail, to signal if something was terribly wrong.
The point is, I had done a horrifying thing to our son once - I might do it again. They knew they had to be prepared. Fox also explained to our son that if something like that does ever happen again it is important for him to always remain dignified and honorable - not to allow himself to become trashy just because he was around that kind of people.
So, you see, they had prepared for this because Fox knew me, and he knew just because I'm being nice doesn't mean I'm not scheming to stab you in the back.
Our son knows about all the hostility between us. He knows about this website. He knows that through his whole life Fox has always been the one that was there for him - even when Fox was detained by ICE he still called our son and wrote him letters every week. He knows I was not there. Even when our son went to visit Fox for his summer vacation last year, I never called him once in the six weeks!
I agree, under normal circumstances, where a woman has been the maternal figure in the child's life, this might be traumatic for a child. But that just is not the case here! Our son doesn't call me "mom", except to my face (because I'll punish him if he calls me by name) - he calls me "Desiree".
So please, people, stop worrying about how this is affecting our son. There is no doubt in my mind that if he had an issue with it he would tell Fox.
Your son will soon be old enough to make his own decisions. He will be able to decide for himself who he wants to be with. That will tell the true story!!
You are a sick man.
God have mercy on your son.