Gabriel's travel plans
Desiree: Gabriel mentioned earlier that you had told him to tell me that unless I can provide proof that I legally changed my name from Richard Riess to Patrick Fox then you would not allow him to visit me during his winter break. I remind you that the court expressly forbids using the child (Gabriel, in this case) to pass messages between the parents (us, in this case). I have informed Gabriel of such and will not accept any messages from him on your behalf. I further remind you you did clearly agree to the travel arrangements previously committed to by me with respect to Gabriel's winter break; moreover, you may recall me insisting on receiving a clearly written authorization for Gabriel's visitation plans for exactly this type of reason. With respect to your request for proof that I legally changed my name from Richard Riess to Patrick Fox, I cannot provide such proof because such name change never occurred. The name on my birth certificate is Patrick Fox and the US and Canadian governments will only issue ID in the name that is on one's birth certificate. I'm sorry that you are only now accepting the reality that you married and had a child with someone who you clearly knew so little about (kinda tells you something about yourself, though, huh)? I guess I'm just that good...and you're not. You may also remember, in December 2011, I declared under oath, in open court, before you and the Judge, that my birth name was Patrick Fox. That was 3 years ago. But all of a sudden now it's become an issue for you? So, is it an issue because you finally realize that I've been telling the truth the past 3 years and you look like an idiot and you're trying to save face? Has there been anything that you accused me of that actually turned out to be right? As for Gabriel's visit: the only person who will be adversely affected by you not allowing him to visit according to the terms you already agreed to in writing, would be him (I am devoid of emotion so I would only be affected financially but I'm not going to lose any sleep over the few hundred dollars for the plane ticket). Fox
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Mon, Dec 15, 2014, 6:37 AM
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Fox, You will recall that In my consent, I expressly stated that Gabriel is to be in the sole custody of his father Richard Riess and that any other personage would be considered kidnapping and not allowed. Those were the terms. You acknowledged receipt as well, but please read below to refresh your memory: "During this period of time he is to remain in the sole care of his father Richard Riess, an no one else." Mr. Riess' untimely demise would seem to make adherence to this clause this impossible. Having Gabriel convey the message was wishful thinking on my behalf that it would be received and met with understanding rather than the venom and immediate rejection that I am frequently faced with. It was not meant as a form of manipulation, coercion, or whatever "message passing" that you may infer/interpret the intent to have been. All that being said, can we please just be adults here and have some normal issues? You are correct in stating that the only one hurt by this behavior is Gabriel. You can be whoever you want to be the rest of the time... James Dean, Marry Poppins, or even the Queen of England. I really don't care. It doesn't matter. Further, It doesn't matter if I believe whatever you are taking to be your present identity is factual. Where Gabriel is involved you need to suck it up and be Richard Riess. Wether that be a made up or previously assumed identity. Richard Riess is who is on all pertinent information pertaining to Gabriel. Work with me here. May you please confirm that during his time in Canada, Gabriel will be and remain in the sole custody of Richard Riess? Thank You. ~Desiree
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Mon, Dec 15, 2014, 7:05 AM
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Good morning, Desiree. It's unfortunate that your knowledge of the law is so lacking. You know me as Richard Riess - you cannot deny that, it's in all the court documents. Your written authorization does use that name, however, since you clearly know me as that name, from a legal perspective your authorization means that Gabriel is to be in the care of the person whom you know as, and have consistently insisted is, Richard Riess (regardless of the actual legal name of that person). The death of the person whose name I assumed 20 years ago is not relevant because you never knew that person and no court is going to believe that your intention was for Gabriel to travel 1500 miles and spend 2 weeks with a person you've never met. Moreover, the court knows me as Richard Riess. I'm indifferent about the names - it is the two governments which now refuse to allow me to use the name Richard Riess anymore. Anyway, you're not fooling anybody - this was your plan all along and both Gabriel and I know it. That is why you explicitly used the name Richard Riess in your authorization. So that you could try to pull this now. But, I explained to Gabriel that that's just the way you are, and we just need to accept people for who they are:). That's also why you agreed to allow him to spend the entire break here, and didn't mind that he wouldn't be with you during Christmas. Because you had no intention of following through with it. Now, since you've agreed in writing, and I purchased his plane tickets based on that agreement, and nothing has changed on my end (you're the one attempting to change the terms), just say the word and I'll file an ex parte petition for Gabriel to be returned to my custody on the grounds that you're actively interfering with his visitation. I'm 100% confident the court will order you to honor the terms you agreed to in writing on November 26, 2014; and 75% confident the court will agree that you're using Gabriel to harm me and order you to return him to me. Good day, Fox
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Mon, Dec 15, 2014, 8:51 AM
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I might also point out that you stated, not only Richard Riess, but also "his father". There is no uncertainty that I am Gabriel's biological father. Therefore, again, your argument about naming is not really significant, is it? Fox
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Mon, Dec 15, 2014, 12:25 PM
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Fox, There is no need for dramatics, threats, or liable. My request and requirement for visitation are and have always been quite simple. There is no formal documented association between Gabriel Riess and a Patrick Fox with regard to paternity.
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Mon, Dec 15, 2014, 1:24 PM
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Desiree: Please have a dictionary on hand and double check the meanings of the words you are using before you respond. There are no threats (a threat requires a statement of intention to cause harm in order to coerce the other party to do or not do something). There is no libel (libel is the defamation of another through written words, knowingly using false statements...if something is true then it's not libel, no matter how defamatory it may be). Another DNA test will prove, without doubt that I am Gabriel's biological father. The court has already established I am his father (through the numerous appearances we have both made). You have already conceded I am his father. Therefore, there is no question I am his father, regardless of what name is on my ID or his birth certificate. If you'd like we can have his birth certificate updated to reflect this. Nevertheless, I AM the person that you have known since January 2000, as Richard Riess. Gabriel knows me as Patrick Fox, however. Do you really suspect I am some other physical entity just pretending to Gabriel's father so that you will send him here to a total stranger? Are you really that obtuse? Fox
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Mon, Dec 15, 2014, 2:21 PM
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Fox, I can tell that reading comprehension is not your strong suit based on your previous response. Please try to focus here, as it involves Gabriel. Do you have identification (legal or otherwise) that you are able to present, stating that you are Richard Riess should you be challaged while Gabriel is in your custody? This is very important because if anything should happen, Gabriel is not authorized to be in the care of custody of anyone other than Richard Riess, regardless of what you may call yourself. There is a very real possibily of negative ramifications should this not be the case. I would prefer to spare both Gabriel and you from that. I am trying to be proactive and look out for everyone's best interest here. Please try to be cooperative, I know it is difficult. ~ Desiree
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Mon, Dec 15, 2014, 2:32 PM
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Desiree: All of my ID says Patrick Fox. You have the sole authority to allow Gabriel to be in the care of any person you so wish. So your statement that "Gabriel is not authorized to be in the care or custody of anyone other than Richard Riess" is incorrect. You also had no issue with it during his Fall Break - I was just as much Patrick Fox at that time as I am now. As for anything proving I am Gabriel's father, that's already established with the Canadian and BC governments. There's no dispute about that. It sure seems the only one being difficult here is you. I have no problems or issues - you're the one backing out of what you've already promised to Gabriel...but then that's your thing, isn't it? If you are going to make comments like "I Can tell that reading comprehension is not your strong suit" then at least explain how you are drawing that conclusion. What part of my previous email would be indicative of that? Please also note, that I have discussed this matter with Gabriel and he fully understands what is going on. Fox
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Mon, Dec 15, 2014, 2:36 PM
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Desiree: One thing I can do, that would resolve any silly problems you're making up to be difficult is to simply send you a copy of my government issued photo ID. But that would just be too easy and you'd have not way to back out of that, would you? Fox
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Mon, Dec 15, 2014, 3:08 PM
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Fox, Would that be a government issued photo ID under the name of Richard Riess? If not, then that would not resolve anything, would it? The reason it has become an issue now is that it has only recently come to my attention that you do not possess any form of ID or other documentation linking you to Richard Riess. Further, the sudden and untimely "death" of Richard Riess has reinforced these concerns. You state that there is legal documentation in BC tying Gabriel Riess with Patrick Fox. Could you please scan and email me said documentation to allay my outstanding concerns? ~Desiree
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Mon, Dec 15, 2014, 3:32 PM
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Desiree: This is only an issue because you're making it so. You have the legal authority to allow Gabriel to spend his visit with any person you wish. There is no requirement, other than that which you are imposing, that he can only be in the care of a person named "Richard Riess". As for the death of the original Richard Riess, that was in 1993. I wouldn't call that sudden or untimely. Also, as I stated previously, that is only "to the best of my knowledge". I do not know for a fact that he died. Maybe he just moved to France. I'm not going to play these stupid, childish power trip games with you. All you're doing is reinforcing, in Gabriel's mind, that he cannot believe or trust you. I've already discussed the situation with him and he fully understands the game you're playing. He has told me, in absolute terms, that he is fed up with you and with being there and he wants to come back with me. I wanted him to stay with you long enough for him to fully realize and understand how terrible of a person you really are so that he never has second thoughts about it (why do you think I waived my rights at the last hearing). He has now reached that point. He's been with you two years and he has less respect for you then he ever did. Are you really that clueless that you cannot even tell when someone has grown to despise you? If he doesn't get off the plane on Saturday then we'll be in court next week. I don't believe there is anything further to say in the matter. Fox
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Mon, Dec 15, 2014, 3:36 PM
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Fox, Merry Christmas! ~Desiree
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Mon, Dec 15, 2014, 3:39 PM
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I'm sorry, I don't get your reference. Please clarify your meaning.