Follow up
Desiree:
I was wondering, because I hadn't received an actual answer from you yet, about the following questions I've recently presented to you.
- Are you willing to speak with a psychologist on a regular (perhaps bi-weekly) basis, at my expense, for the purpose of obtaining a psychological evaluation (of your emotional and mental state)?
- Why will you not permit Gabriel to visit Liz in Los Angeles for 2 days on his way back to Phoenix from Vancouver, over his winter break?
- Has Gabriel been to the dentist and had his teeth cleaned within the past 3 months?
- Has Gabriel been to a physician and had a physical within the past 6 months?
- Has Gabriel has an eye exam within the past 6 months?
- Have you informed Gabriel's school that they may release information about Gabriel and his progress to me?
Here are some new questions:
- Are you willing to submit to a drug test, at my expense? You have recently claimed that you have quit using marijuana so I wonder if you'd be willing to provide clinical proof?
- How frequently do you work outside the home, until later than 10pm? You were sleeping in the early evening when I called the other day and I understand it was because you were very tired because you worked "all night".
I look forward to your response.
- No
- No
- No
- No
- No
- No
- Yes
- Never. I go into the office from 9:30am until 3:30pm. I work from home the rest of the time.
Any other questions?
Yes, I do. But first, question number 2 in my previous email was not a yes/no question. I asked "why".
I shall have my attorney make the arrangements for you to be tested for specific drugs at a facility near your home or work at a time that will be convenient for your schedule. Please forward me a list of the times are that acceptable to you.
Questions:
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Why are you not willing to submit to a psychological evaluation? If you really do believe that you are telling the truth; that you're a good person; that I'm a compulsive liar and you're not; and that you're acting in what you sincerely believe are Gabriel's best interests then this would be an excellent way for you to prove it to the court.
Again, I would be more than happy to meet with a psychologist and release his/her findings to you.
- Why will you not permit Gabriel to visit Liz in Los Angeles for 2 days on his way back to Phoenix from Vancouver, over his winter break? (Asked again because it was not correctly answered in the previous message).
- Do you intend to notify Gabriel's school that they may release information regarding him and his progress to me?
- How frequently do sleep between the hours of 4pm and 10pm, while Gabriel is home?
You seem to think Fox that somehow I am answerable to you. I am not. I am not under your scrutiny, your rules, your guidelines. Drug testing at a facility is not done unless ordered by a court of law. You are not a court of law...in fact - you have no legal basis here at all. If the judge deems it necessary for me to submit to a drug test I will...but not for you, you don't have that control or power. I do not need or require psychological help or an evaluation and am not going to waste my precious time with it. I understand it would be helpful for Gabriel and if the courts would like to see that I will. if you want to spend your money on something - spend it on something relevant and pay for co-payments for doctor, dentist, and eye specialist appointments. I will set them up, send you the dates, times, and locations and you can authorize Gabriel to pay for it however you see fit. Lastly - and yes, this is the last thing I am going to say regarding your question (and they are just questions - I am not required at all to answer any of them) - you asked me if I would approve Gabriel going to see Liz. I answered you. I am not required to allow, I am not required to give you a reason why. I have proposed and asked multiple times for Gabriel to visit Liz and you have denied each one by coming back and saying it was her...like I didn't speak with her initially or something. Now you want to pretend to be the "good guy" and arrange this visit - I don't think so. If it wasn't good enough or important enough for Gabriel to see Liz in October then it's not important or good enough for him to see Liz in January. End of discussion. You can respond with whatever you want, however you want but I will not read it. If you have an issue with any of it - I suggest you have your lawyer take it up in court. Goodbye.
Please see my responses, inline, below:
Not true. I don't believe that you are obligated to answer ANY questions I pose to you which are not related to Gabriel's well-being. His well-being includes his health and education. Beyond that you have the right to refuse to answer. At the same time I have the right to ask ANY question I want. If you don't like it or have something to hide then just don't answer.
You are so completely incorrect about that. As long as Gabriel is in your custody I have the right to know how he's being taken care of. I have the right to observe his living conditions. I have the right to make sure he's receiving proper medical care. You wanted to gain custody of him and went as far as filing a frivolous claim with ICE to get me arrested and detained. The moment Gabriel was placed in your care these rights were endowed upon me. Look, I'm not your lawyer or legal adviser. It's not my responsibility to educate you on the law and our respective rights. Go hire yourself your own attorney or start reading up on this stuff.
Again, you're wrong. A court order is only required to "compel" a person to be tested. If the person does it voluntarily then a court order is not required. When a person starts a new job for a company that requires a drug test there is no court order. Jesus, Desiree! What kind of fantasy do you live in.
You are correct I am not a court of law. Nor is anyone else. Only a court of law is a court of law. As for a legal basis, please clarify your meaning. As we speak (type) I am in Playa del Rey. Are you saying that I have no rights as long as I am on US soil? I don't get your meaning.
I see, so you only agreed to earlier because you thought that I wouldn't be able to arrange it because only a court can arrange a drug test? But now that you see it's just a matter of paying the fee to the testing lab and you showing up you're having second thoughts? Alright, well, I guess that tells me everything I need to know about your drug use.
I never gave any indication that it was to "help" you. My goal is to obtain medical proof that you are delusional, a compulsive liar, narcissistic to the point of it being harmful to people who rely on you, and are unable to tell the difference between the fantasies you fabricate in your mind and reality. And if it turned out I was wrong then you'd have proof that your perfectly fine and well adjusted. Like with your abrupt change of mind on the drug test this tells us everything we need to know about what you truly believe about yourself.
Your consistent refusal to do anything in good faith, and only as a result of a court order demonstrates a fundamental difference between us. You see how I do things right away, without having to be told or ordered? That's because I am a good person...and clearly (as proven by such refusal to take the initiative) you are not.
Are you retarded? What the fuck do you think I sent Gabriel a credit card for? You have absolutely NO excuse now to not take Gabriel to the doctor and dentist. I've told you this in numerous prior emails. The fact that he's had that card for almost a month now and you are still claiming that you can't afford the co-payments proves 2 things: (1) you're full of crap; and (2) you are as delusional as I keep saying you are. It also proves how selfish you are. The ONLY reason you have not taken Gabriel to the dentist is because you can't be bothered to take the time out of your schedule. It has not had anything to do with money since I sent you that email on July 22.
Medical expenses do not require approval. And you've been saying that you're going to take care of it since June! You are such a fucking selfish, lazy cunt bitch! I can't believe that you can be that irresponsible and negligent that you can't take 9 minutes out of your life one time to make sure his teeth are okay. I know he's not brushing them twice a day like you claimed in court. Hell, half the time you're not even there when he's should be brushing them - how would you even know?
Thank you. That one statement, right there, is the best thing I could have ever gotten you to admit to. I'm sorry, my friend, but you have just dug you own grave (metaphorically speaking) and there is really nothing more I need you to admit to.
You contacted Liz and tried to arrange for Gabriel to spend his fall break with her. You did not contact me about it. You did it for one reason - to spite me. That was proven by you refusing to allow Gabriel to visit me instead. Liz declined because she doesn't want your drama and she (wisely) doesn't trust you. You see, that you would try to arrange that without telling me, then refuse to let him visit her when I ask if he can demonstrates how psychotically controlling you are trying to be. You will let Gabriel do anything - as long as it's not something I also want. That's childish and petty and you don't care how it affects Gabriel. Consider, for all your talk about the need for Gabriel to be around "family" and that I'm not able to provide him that, you took him by force and deceit from the only "family" he had ever known - then you try to use that "family" as pawns in your demented head games.
Slow down, chubby. I'm not trying to pretend to be the "good guy". I discussed it with Gabriel and with Liz first. They both said they would like that. It would be convenient for Gabriel because he would be travelling anyway. I'm not trying to score any points by doing that. Liz took care of Gabriel since he was 18 months old. She is a significant figure in his life. YOU are the one that ripped him out of that threw his life upside down, not me. If Gabriel would like to visit her for a couple of days then I would not discourage that. You cannot say the same, because in this very message I am respond to you are doing exactly that - you are refusing to let him visit with the person that filled the maternal role for the majority of his life. So, please tell me: how are you NOT a bad person? You don't care what Gabriel wants; you only care that I don't get what I want. But it makes ABSOLUTELY no difference to me if Gabriel leaves here 2 days earlier to visit with Liz and her family on his way back to Arizona. It ONLY makes a difference to Gabriel (and Liz). So, you see, I am right: you don't care what Gabriel wants - you only care about trying to upset me. You're such a freak (and not the good kind).
I had nothing to do with Gabriel not visiting Liz in October. I was 1200 miles away, you idiot. What could I possibly do? How is it that you're not able to realize the problems you cause for people? Dude!!! Get a fucking clue!!! Liz is an foreigner! You called ICE and had them show up at her place repeatedly! You showed up out of the blue with the Sheriffs, throwing a fit, crying and screaming, demanding that Gabriel go with you to Arizona - after only 2 visits with him. And then you have the audacity to call her a couple weeks later and invite her to Arizona for Gabriel's birthday. Dude! You're a fucking moron and a social cripple. What the fuck kind of idiot does that? I'm sorry that I have to be so blunt with you but you just don't get it. You have to be the biggest fucking imbecile in the world to think that someone would be your friend after all that.
Indeed! My God, you're dense. I have a smile on my face right now. I can't help it, though. It's almost comedic how fucking thick you are sometimes. I mean, come on! Is that really how people are in your podunk world?
Well, that's a shame. Now I just won't be able to sleep. But, it's okay, because as always, I will forward a copy of this thread to all the relevant parties and they'll all have a chuckle at how stereotypical you are. I swear sometimes it's like you're straight out of Joe Dirt.
Are you confused, or something? Why would I bring this up in court? Gabriel has made his decision to remain in Arizona. The custody issue is done. The legal issues that remain are between you and I. And even though Gabriel will be remaining with you it will not deter me from keeping the vow I made you on July 22.
So, it's a "no" on the drug test then, huh?
Detective Tuchfarber: Good morning. I was going through some of the emails I have from Desiree, looking for the one where she stated that she no longer has a medical marijuana card, and I came across this one which I though might be helpful for you to understand the nature of our relationship. I had asked her if she would be willing to submit to a drug test at my expense and she agreed because she falsely thought that a drug test could only be obtained by a court order. When she found out that wasn't the case she rescinded. I also asked her if it would be alright for Gabriel to visit my friend Liz (the women that helped take care of him from 2002 - 2011) during his visit over the 2013 winter break. She refused, even though two months prior she attempted to arrange for Gabriel to visit Liz in LA, during his fall break, while refusing to allow him to visit with me during that break. You can also see how she picks her arguments according to whatever will serve her interests at the moment, with complete disregard for the statements she had made just a month earlier - arguments which are completely contrary to those previous statements. She even goes as far as to blame Liz for not wanting to see Gabriel during his fall break - completely disregarding the fact that Liz is a foreign national and Desiree had ICE show up at Liz's home multiple times. Yet Desiree can't understand why Liz would want nothing to do with her and doesn't trust her. I mean, I've studied some psychology, but there is no combination of disorders what can explain Desiree's reality (again, that's just my opinion). And yet the family court, and everybody (except perhaps you and I) think she's just the sweetest person in the world. Fox