Gabriel's school information

He's been in your temporary custody since January 2013.  To date I've not
received a single update or artifact from you regarding his educational
development or progress.  To answer your question: I am requesting copies
of ALL artifacts and information which has been provided to you from the
school(s) he has been attending.

With respect to my history of releasing information to you - I have always
promptly provided you all the information you have ever requested with
respect to Gabriel and we have the email records to prove it.

I am at work right now but will continue this when I get home.

Fox
		

1.
Unclarity?  On 2/23/13 I sent an email saying:
"May you please provide me Gabriel's school information, particularly, the
name of the school, and his teachers' names?

Also, have you put my name on the school records so that I can speak with
his teachers and/or access his school information?  If not, then may you do
so?"

I did not receive a response.

In May, when I spoke to you briefly on the telephone I requested you
provide me copies of all of his school related artifacts and information.

I did not receive a response, other than your statement that I could ask
him for that information.

On 8/5/13 I sent you an email wherein I said:
"This serves as my third, formal request to be provided a copy of Gabriel's
school records and progress reports for the period of time he has been in
your care.

I also, hereby request copies of any medical and dental records for the
duration of time he has been in your care."

I did not receive a response to that request, however, you did take the
time to respond to my assertion that any money I send him is only for him,
not for you and Sage.

On 8/19/13 I sent you an email in which I said:
"May you please provide me Gabriel's school information at the earliest
opportunity?  In particular, the name of the school he is attending; the
name of his home room teacher; and the name of his counselor."

Your response was that he does not have a home room teacher or a
counsellor.  You did not provide the name of any of his teachers, or
anybody at the school that would be able to provide me information about
how he is doing.  In your response you also said that I am "on his
paperwork as his father and [am] more than welcome to contact the school at
any time".  You failed to mention that you told the school that you alone
have sole custody and that they may not release any information to me.

Anyway, I disagree that I was not clear.  I think I have been very clear in
my requests.

I have done more than would be expected of me by submitting 4 requests (3
written, one verbal).  You have not provided the documentation and
information and, therefore, yes, you have refused to comply with your legal
obligations.

2.
As I stated earlier, while Gabriel was in my custody I provided you with
everything you requested regarding his education.  The thing is - you did
not request a single thing.  You do not have 1 email showing that you had
requested anything from me.  I did not voluntarily provide you documents or
information that you did not request because you clearly did not care
enough to inquire.  And I did, on a number of occasions, provide you copies
of some of his certificates of accomplishment, and progress reports.
Again, we have the emails so that can be proven.  Moreover yet, I took the
time to scan all his old photos and compile every picture I had of him and
put it on a DVD which I forwarded to you.

You did not hear about his time at Dodson because you didn't care enough to
ask.  You never once contacted the school to inquire about his progress
(they would have notified me if you had).

You were not given his phone number because you had no reason to have it.
I was paying the bill - not you.  And you were perfectly able to call him
on the landline.  Furthermore, you did give him a mobile, supposedly to
facilitate communication between you and him, then you through a childish
fit and had it disconnected when he didn't want to visit with you.  You
claimed it was because you didn't have the money, yet you had just paid the
amount for another month of service (it was a prepaid)...then less than 24
hours later had it turned off.

If he did not return your phone calls then maybe you should take the hint.
Gabriel has been tolerating being out there with you because he expects it
to be temporary.  He did not expect it would drag on this long.  But I
spoke to him recently and explained to him that there is a possibility that
the judge may say he has to remain there for an indefinite duration of
time.  He accepts that it is just something we have to deal with and he is
doing his best to make the best of it.  I have expressed, repeatedly, to
him that accept full responsibility for causing all of this because I was
the one that contacted you and brought you into our lives.  I teach him to
act with dignity and honor and he is doing an exceptional job of that.  And
one day I hope that he will be as proud to have had me as a father as I am
to have him as a son.  That is something I am sure you will never
experience.

With respect to your claim that you got no communication from Gabriel or me
during that time: Gabriel is not under any obligation, legally or morally,
to have ANY communication with you.  And I am only required to communicate
with you on matters regarding Gabriel's well-being, educational and medical
needs.  And that, I did.  I contacted you about Dodson before moving
forward with enrolling him.  You did not respond.

And as for Gabriel not communicating with you - he did.  He sent you an
email asking if he could skip his winter break visitation.  You became
authoritarian with him and told him that there was a court order and that
he was going to go.  You did not ask him why he didn't want to go.  You did
not ask him if anything was wrong.  That's what a caring, understanding
parent would do.  Every once and a while, when I speak to him I ask him if
he still wants to come back - I explain that I want what's best for him and
that I want him to be happy and that if he ever changes his mind and
decides he wants to stay there, with you, I'll be okay with that and I'll
always continue to do things as I always have for him.  And, when I spoke
to him a few days ago and told him about my meeting with the attorney and
that there's a good chance that I'm going to have to dip into his education
fund to cover the legal fees, I told him he has to be absolutely sure about
what he wants because there is a good chance that this is going to break us
financially.  But I also told him that none of that matters to me because
as he's my son and there is absolutely no way that I will give up on
getting him back as long as there is one dollar in my pocket and anything
at all that I can do to that end.  And I told him that when the attorney
told me that we may be better off just trying for visitation, that that
would be much easier and less expensive, I told the attorney that that's
not an option - as long as Gabriel wants to come home, then even if there
was absolutely no chance that the court would order him returned to me, it
doesn't matter - I must do everything that I can to try to make that
happen.  Even if it means spending every penny that I will make in the next
10 years - because I will not have my son think that I gave up on him!  Of
course, the attorney hasn't read about your drug use and proclivity to
being in relationships with criminals and violent men.  He's still
reviewing the case files.  It's a large file and he just got back from a
three week vacation.

With respect to me telling you he didn't care about you and didn't want to
speak to you - sorry, but sometimes the truth hurts.  It seems pretty
obvious to me, and the rest of the world, that you have failed miserably at
your attempts to gain his affection and respect.  I have shared with
Gabriel my experiences from my childhood, having divorced parents.  I told
him about how they would try to buy the kid's affection (mainly to try to
hurt the other parent); and about how we used that to our benefit.  We took
complete advantage of it.  If a parent is dumb enough to try to buy their
child's affection and respect then by all means that child should milk it
for everything he can.  As far as I'm concerned, you go right ahead and
keep buying him things and taking him places.  I've made it very clear to
him that there is no way I would play that game and I would never try to
buy his respect.  When I buy him things it's because I want him to be happy
- even though I'm not there to enjoy it.  I sleep well at night knowing
that he's enjoying some new game I got him.  I don't need him to call and
thank me.  And he knows that I'm doing it for his happiness, not because
I'm trying to make him like me more than you.  And I've told him all about
my mother and the things she did, and he's a smart person so he see's the
similarities between you and her.  I don't have to tell him that you're a
bed person - I tell him my mother was a bad person then he notices that
you're just like her.  If he makes the inference, that's got nothing to do
with me.

And with respect to your claim "that's something I would never do".  HA!
So let's see if I understand this correctly:  YOU would never tell me that
he didn't care about me and didn't want to speak with me.  No, YOU would
call DHS and have me arrested and detained on false claims because you
think that's going to cause you to get custody of Gabriel by default.
Yeah, you're right, I'm the bad guy. (That's sarcasm)  I'm not at all angry
about what you did because it put me in my current position - a great job
that I'm really enjoying, I live in a nice neigborhood, I get a whole new,
fresh start, with a clean slate, and I could never be charged with identity
theft or fraud because all along I've insisted I'm not that Richard Riess
but it's the government that keeps saying I am.  Had I remained in the US,
let's see, I wasn't able to find a job as a software engineer, my credit
was shot, I couldn't pass a background check.  And now?  All of those
problems are gone.  I have a new drivers license (even my DUI doesn't
matter now), a new passport, an excellent credit rating (thank YOU real
Richard Riess), and thank YOU Miss Capuano for not letting it go and
insisting on pushing the issue.  And, as Richard Riess, the Canadian, that
means that Gabriel also automatically inherits Canadian citizenship.  And,
as a citizen of Canada he is "entitled" to all the benefits and to travel
freely between the two countries.  yes, you've done us both a huge favor -
when I received those offers up here back in 2012 the companies were going
to have to sponsor me but now, I can work anywhere, for anyone.  And, so
far I haven't had any problems going over to Seattle or to the EA office in
Redwood Shores.  As long as I don't tell you I'm there then everything is
fine:)

Alright, as usual, I have addressed each of your points and you have been
wrong or misguided on each.  And,  I have taken the time to explain how and
why you are wrong.

Good day to you Miss Capuano.

Sincerely,
Fox