Fwd: Happy birthday
Begin forwarded message:
Hello Son,
I know you got the birthday package, I checked the tracking information. I hope you liked everything. They didn't have the assassins creed action figure - believe me, I looked. I hope you know that the only reason your phone shut off was because of money and in no way was because of any emotions. I planned on having it turned back on with my next paycheck. I hear you're father got you a phone instead and I guess that makes more sense as you would have a local number. I want you to know that I love you very much and you will be here for winter break, which I am very excited for. I will not call you however as I am not going to call the house phone, you're father hasn't given me your number, and it is of no interest for you to speak to me while you are there. I also have no wish to put you in the middle of things with your father any more than necessary. That does not mean for one second that I am not thinking of you and missing you or that I don't love you so very much. I know this is hard and I'm sorry baby. I love you and I hope you had a wonderful birthday.
Desiree:
I received this from Gabriel. Please see my comments, inline, below.
Begin forwarded message:
Hello Son,
I know you got the birthday package, I checked the tracking information.
Yes, your package arrived on Friday.
No comment.
I discussed this issue with him, first when you had the service suspended (Sept 8) and again when he received this email from you. He understands that the service was suspended just before the last court hearing due to the bill not being paid. Then, after court it was turned back on - presumably because you paid the past due balance. Then, within 24 hours of him not wanting to visit you it was turned off again. He understands that you did not notify him that it was turned off because the bill was past due (or for ANY reason) which would lead any reasonable person to believe that it was turned off by you. He came to these conclusions on his own. If it was really turned off because of money then a reasonable person would have called him and let him know at that time.
You've also said that you intended to pay part of the medical bill and for some of the school expenses I've requested from you. That has never materialized so we won't hold our breath on this.
Yes, because I believe it is important for a child to have a secure and stable environment. He shouldn't have to worry about his means of communication being revoked just because his caregiver throws a tantrum.
There is no reason you could not have gotten him a 310 number. With mobile phones you can get any area code you want as long as it's within the services provider's coverage areas.
Gabriel knows enough to pay attention to a person's actions, not their words. He has clearly made up his mind about you.
No comment.
Why not? If you really care about him then why would you not call him? But don't get me wrong, we're not losing any sleep over you not calling. Gabriel has your number as well so if he was really concerned he could call you.
It's Gabriel's phone. When I gave it to him I programmed your numbers in it and I told him that if he wants you to have the number he is free to give it to you. The fact that he hasn't should speak volumes.
Neither Gabriel nor I understand what you mean by this.
Then don't.
Gabriel's words: Whatever.
Not on our end. If it was hard for Gabriel he could easily call you on his phone.
Again, this is just words. Your actions and behavior have demonstrated to Gabriel (and everyone else) a very different story.
Please don't think that Gabriel is upset about not hearing from you, or that you didn't call on his birthday or that you turned the phone off. After the incident last time you were in LA he has become indifferent to you. It took a year but he has finally seen enough to realize that you're just manipulative and that you try to use people's compassion and pity to get your way. I knew he would come to that conclusion on his own eventually.
How old will he be before you let him speak for himself? The words sound real big coming from you.
I reread the email I sent you and I don't see how you arrived at the conclusion that I am not letting Gabriel speak for himself. I couldn't find a single statement that was me speaking on Gabriel's behalf. I only relayed what he told me.
There is nothing stopping Gabriel from calling you on his way home from school, or any other time. And if he were to call you he could say whatever he wants. I wouldn't be present and I wouldn't have any knowledge of the call. So, how am I not letting Gabriel speak for himself? Perhaps you just don't want to accept that he doesn't want to talk to you?
And, you're one to talk! You're 32 and still having your boyfriend speak for you. What kind of example does that set? At what age will YOU start speaking for yourself
Nevertheless, if you really do want to hear Gabriel's thoughts directly from him then I can speak to him about it and try to get him to tell you. Just let me know.
I don't know what you mean by "The words sound real big coming from you." Do you mean "very big"? How can typed words "sound real (or very) big"? How are the sizes of the words any different coming from me as opposed to Gabriel? Are you referring to the typeface size or the number of characters or the number of syllables in the words? Please clarify.