Some of Gabriel's clothes

Desiree:

If you did it right the first time then you wouldn't have to spend the
extra money returning the things he "forgot" there.  As a responsible
parent I cannot knowingly send him on a trip without making sure he has
the items he may need (I cannot assume you will have any such items
there prior to his arrival - based on my experience with you (I can cite
specific examples, if you'd like)).  So, I will continue to send him
with the items he may need, such as changes of clothes, toothbrush,
glasses.

I'm sure right now you're livid about my implication that you are not a
responsible parent. Tell me this: when Gabriel returned on January 7th
he was wearing a gray t-shirt.  Said t-shirt was dirty.  I asked him how
long he'd had it on.  He said he put it on that morning.  I noticed on
the way home that his hair was kind of oily.  I asked the last time he
took a shower.  He said he took one the night before.  After we returned
home I was looking at the picture you posted on Facebook, with him and
your new dog.  The picture was taken on January 5th.  He was wearing the
same shirt.  I showed him the picture and asked him, again, how long
he's been wearing those close.  Then he told me he'd been wearing them
since Wednesday (January 4).  He also admitted he hadn't showered since
the 4th or 5th.  I then explained to him about the importance of trust
between him and I because before that I have no record of him ever lying
to me.  So, tell me, am I being too harsh on you by saying that a
responsible parent does not let their child go 3 days without changing
their clothes or showering?  And is it really your opinion that a
responsible parent buys and provides a THIRD dog yet can't be bothered
to make a single contribution to the basic necessities of their child?
And, finally, from what I can tell you're also supporting your
boyfriend.  I know that his DBA is registered to his father's address,
his cell phone is in his father's name, there is no actual business
address or telephone number on file with the Secretary of State, there
is no directory listing for the business, and I'm unable to find any
significant, recurring clients.  So while it is true "He owns his own
business" (as you said when you were here in December) it doesn't appear
that it's an actual business or that it's profitable.

Also, you've mentioned that you have glasses for Gabriel out there.  So,
is his prescription different than the ones he already has here?  Should
I have him retested here or do you intend to provide me a copy of the
prescription so I can get him new glasses here since you clearly don't
want him bringing anything you get him back here.  Of course, I don't
know if the insurance is going to cover a second pair of glasses
already.  Don't you think it looks kind of bad on you that you're
willing to have him tested out there and get him glasses out there but
you insist on keeping the glasses out there?  What justification could
you possibly have for withholding medical care and basic necessities
from him?  Do you want him to see clearly only when he's with you?  Oh,
are you trying to build a case in your favor by showing that I am
unable, financially, to provide for Gabriel?  If so, you should be
aware, that's not how it works.  A parent's inability to provide for the
financial needs of the child is not a basis for a custody decision.  It
will just result in the court requiring you to contribute more to make
up the difference.  Also, the court will consider that for the last ten
years I have provided for him without any help from you and without any
government assistance (can you say the same, about receiving government
assistance?).  The court will consider that part of the reason you were
able to attend school and better yourself is because you had no
responsibility to Gabriel.  Had I not taken care of Gabriel without any
help from you then there is a good chance you would not have been able
to go to school (hey, that almost sounds like a reasonable basis to
pursue spousal support).  Haven't you read up on any of this?  You
really have to stop relying on those attorneys you keep hiring.  I'm
guessing, at this point, you've used up the retainer you paid your last
attorney and now he's reluctant to assist you unless you pay more.  Damn
attorneys.  Consider: so far every attorney you've hired has done
nothing to help you; so far I've been more than reasonable and haven't
tried to take advantage of your ignorance of the law; so far it's your
attorneys that have made things unnecessarily confrontational.  I really
think you'd be better off without the attorneys.

Anyway, I have to go debug a socket buffer overflow or something.

Good day!

Fox
		

Desiree:

I checked with Gabriel and it seems that you've never taken him clothes
shopping (other than the one pair of shoes), so I'm confused how you can
say that you have clothing for him out there.

I'm also aware that you had told him, when he was out there a few weeks
ago, that you were going to have a big breakfast for him on the day he
was to come back but then you blew that off.  He was quite upset about
that.  Apparently, he was looking forward to it then when it didn't
happen he felt quite let down.  In the future please either try to keep
your promises to him or refrain from make promises you can't or don't
intend to keep.  I would really appreciate that.

Fox