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Fox, out of respect for you and your son I've stayed out of this custody dispute because frankly it was not my place to get involved, but you just invited me in by your harassment and bullying of one of the kindest and gentle souled persons I've ever known, Desiree. I've never once spoken negatively to Gabriel about you as it is clear to me he loves you.. And if love is a too obtuse or vulnerable attribute for you to recognize there is also loyalty and honor and honesty, all of which Gabriel has maintained from day one.
But you have now convinced me your nothing but a bully and I have no tolerance for people of that nature. You want a victory for your ego then you engage a worthy opponent. I'm not it, you're clearly to cerebral and familiar with this particular battle for me to engage; but I have resources and other avenues to find you the kind of fight you're looking for. You engaged the wrong person and it was your arrogance that blinded you to that danger. I am involved now, for Desiree and Gabriel's sake. Saturday was not an unreasonable time frame, you should have accepted your small victory with a little grace and dignity, because up until that I still believed your son was your target. I don't care who reads this, I wrote it and i mean every word.
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I believe your statements and conduct on the telephone earlier were completely inappropriate. There is no harassment occurring on my end. The judge clearly ordered Desiree to return Gabriel to me immediately - he used that very word repeatedly, immediately! Immediately means right now. It was the Court's intention that Gabriel be returned to me yesterday. When the Court ordered us to work out the details he was referring to the logistics (location, mode of transportation, etc.) not the date. Over the last few months Desiree has made many false allegations about me under oath in order to get her way with the courts. The courts now realize that few of her claims are true and they're tired of her. They agree that what she did in August was grossly inappropriate and that Gabriel should not have been taken to Arizona. She's repeatedly defied the courts' orders. She put herself in this situation - not me. My frequent contact since yesterday is not harassment because I am simply trying to comply with the Court's order of getting Gabriel back here "immediately". And my statements about the issuance of a warrant are merely statements of fact. That is the procedure. She is not merely in contempt of court - the failure to return a child to the other parent as ordered by the court is a federal offense and a state offense. I made it clear to her that I will not tolerate any more of her misconduct and I intend to seek enforcement of my rights in this matter to the fullest extent. I find it amazing that she can portray me as a "bully" and that anyone would believe that. I'm the one that tried to inform her of the law on these matters so that she wouldn't be duped by that hack attorney she had (again); I'm the one that postponed the last ex parte hearing so she could prepare; I have every legal right to go there right now and take Gabriel - I don't need her consent or to notify her, but I would like her to be able to save some dignity in front of Gabriel and also I don't wish to stoop to the level that she has been. That is not how civilized people do things! Was she not a bully when she came here with the police and took Gabriel without notice? Was she not a bully when she lied to the court in Arizona in order to get her ex parte order and to prevent me from visiting him?
A kind and gentle souled person would not have taken Gabriel by force to go live in a different city with people he hardly knows.
This has nothing to do with my ego. Desiree means less to me than the lint in my pocket. I would not put one ounce of effort into trying to upset her or get back at her for some thing. The only thing on my mind is getting Gabriel back because this is where he wants to be. He waited four years for me to come home then three weeks before my release Desiree steals him away to Arizona and refuses to let me see him. Who the hell is the bully here?
As far as Saturday being unreasonable - IMMEDIATELY means RIGHT NOW!!!! Not in four days. The judge did not want Gabriel out of school for an entire week.
Based on what I know of your criminal history, your demeanor and statements on the telephone, and your statements [above], I sincerely believe that there is a credible threat from you, to mine and/or Gabriel's safety and I believe I have choice but to seek a restraining order against both you and Desiree (for her threat about having "big guns in her corner").
I have until just recently remained impartial with my judgments and opinions of your character. I have even conceded to your logic and viewpoints on occasion and hoped this would all turn out in a way that made Gabriel happy.. You go on and on about how it's only about Gabriels wants and choices yet you manipulate and influence both. Gabriel loves his Mother and on his own decided the terms of custody he would be most happy with; and you made him feel guilty because your own hang ups with your mother. The kid just wants to make you proud Fox, he idolizes you inherently because you are his father, and you take advantage of that. I know the whole story because from the very start I told Gabriel I was on his side, and I stuck to my word. I want him to be with you, I know how long the two of you waited to be reunited and that must have sucked to be delayed in that reunion. But he also needed an opportunity to know his mother, and judge for himself her nature and character without the jaded and poisonous opinions you plant in his head. Fox I don't doubt you have merit in your perceptions of Desi or woman in general... I just know that for Gabriel to inherit those perceptions without cause would hurt him. He loves Desi and that won't change. I want Gabriel to be happy too and right now I'm sure he is as excited to see you as you are him. I will clear my schedule to Bring him to you, because it's the right thing to do. However, I promise you you are mistaken about the kind of person Desi is. You would be wrong to try and keep them from each other, just as I would be to delay your reunion with your son. Give me a midpoint and time, preferably later in the evening as I have obligations to deal with here.
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Are you saying then that Gabriel will be returned today? That is not clear in your message. The closest location to a midpoint would be Chiriaco Summit, CA. As we had already agreed to. I must confirm that my friend is still available to go today. I will check with her.
Most of what you say [above] I will not respond to because I believe it is completely unfounded (for example poisoning Gabriel's mind or withholding him from Desiree). I will say though, that if a person cannot define what love is than they cannot say that they love someone. A self-induced state of anxiety resulting from the conditioned responses instilled by media and family is not love. It's merely a person reacting to something in the way they believe is normal and appropriate. Since Gabriel cannot define what love is then his use of the word does not carry a lot of weight. The same applies to any person that cannot provide a clear and consistent definition of love. In other words pretty much everybody on the planet. I do not believe that Gabriel loves Desiree. I believe he has been guilted into saying he loves her so he doesn't hurt her feelings. And I'm really tired of this nonsense about me withholding Gabriel from her. I've never done that I have no interest in doing it. Gabriel is smart enough to figure these things out on his own.
And I don't believe I am mistaken about Desiree. She is a spitting image (psychologically and emotionally) of my own mother so I know the behavior all to well. Nothing that she has done has been surprising.
As for me speaking about Desiree to Gabriel it is only my opinion and I teach him to have his own. And if I say anything that may be construed as negative I always provide an objective explanation for why I think that way. It is for him to make up his own mind.
And these last few months have proven that if anyone was going to try to keep Gabriel from the other it is Desiree. Even when I filed the custody papers here I did not seek sole legal and physical. I clearly stated on the forms that I sought reasonable visitation as the court deemed appropriate. My recent change of intention is based on her withholding of your background and the fact that I have a credible fear of Gabriel's safety. What if we were face to face when we spoke this morning? And what if Gabriel happened to be present. I'm sorry, but I'm not going to take that chance.
That is a yes, I will bring your son to you today if that is your request. I'm excited for your reunion, I know what it's like to be kept from your family and the fulfillment it brings to end that separation.
As far as your cognition of love I don't see any point for that debate, you are imposing rules to an emotion that defies them all, and being that the term is grossly relative to each individual, it's as pointless as debating religion or human purpose. Love just happens... And often it hurts...
As far as your concern had we been face to face this morning and using my past as a negative don't waste your time. My past and the mistakes I've made make me the person I am, and as your son will attest I am far from a threat; but he has perspective you don't and I understand your concern. I am a protector by nature, I am only a threat to people who victimize and hurt those I love, and not the way I'm sure you'd stereotype me to be. But I do wear my heart on my sleeve especially when I perceive a threat to my family
FYI ... If you don't come to meet your son it will disappoint him, no matter how you rationalize it, just an observation I thought you should consider. I've grown to respect Gabriel's love for you, I hope you can too Fox.
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