Winter break plans
Desiree:
Do you intend to exercise your winter break visitation this year? If so then we're going to have to have a hearing beforehand to allow the Court the opportunity to review all the recent developments in your situation (including the recent discovery that you did not discontinue your marijuana use during your diversion program and Gabriel's declaration that you were smoking marijuana in the house while he was present; and of course you allowing Kristopher to use and keep meth and the stolen assault rifle in the house with children present).
If you do not intend to exercise your visitation then those issues can wait until the March hearing.
Fox
P.S. I'm unclear how you have come to the conclusion that the California Court does not have an issue with your marijuana use. At this point the Court has not made any ruling on it and the fact that they granted my first ex parte request to suspend visitation based solely on your marijuana use would seem to indicate that it is an issue. The cancellation of that request later was based on the Court's perception that there was a lot of false allegations being made and questions of fact that were unresolved. Hence the 6 month postponement and the evaluation. That gives the Court an opportunity to see how the parties will conduct themselves, presently - and you've certainly provided a lot for the Court to consider over these last few months.
Yes I intend to "exercise" my winter visit with my son. Gabriel was not exposed to ANY marijuana use and I didn't "allow" Kris to keep anything in the house. It was hidden and I had no knowledge of it, except for the pellet guns which were completely legal.
You will never be able to make feel worse about what happened than I already do on my own but I know you're hell bent on trying.
Then I guess I shall have to provide notice that I will be requesting an ex parte hearing based on the newly discovered information, as well.
Regarding Gabriel being exposed to marijuana: he has told me that while he was there over the summer he regularly smelled it in the house. I shall believe him over you.
With respect to you "allowing" Kristopher to keep the stolen gun and meth in the house: If you truly did not know that he was getting high in the garage then that shows that you have no knowledge of, or control over what is going on in your own home and therefore, are not able to provide a safe environment for your children. Are you telling me you never once got curious about what he was doing in the garage all the time? And you never smelled the meth? You couldn't tell by his fidgeting and odd sleep patterns? Come on.
It is compounded by the fact that you and Kristopher were engaged to be married (yours and his own words in countless emails you've sent me) and you had been in a relationship with him for over 2.5 years - if you were not able to tell that he was getting high then that shows, further, that you are not able to provide a safe environment for your children. Moreover, you told the police that you had no idea what was in the garage or what Kristopher was doing in there because you never go in there, however, you park your car in there and go in there on a regular basis. Also, you posted pictures on your Facebook page of Gabriel hanging out in the garage (sitting on a couch next to what looks like a water heater). There are also pictures of you in your robe and pajamas, in the garage. The garage is where they found the container of meth, 5 meth pipes and a meth bong. None of which were hidden or locked away where the children couldn't discover or reach them. You also told the police that Kristopher told you about the stolen rifle and you "suspected" it was in the house...but you didn't do anything to get it out of the house.
The police also seized the blankets that Kristopher used to muffle the sound when he fired a test round in the living room. He confessed to that during his interview. It's in the report.
Your claim that you had no knowledge of any of this would be more believable had you not fervently defended Kristopher's shoplifting and criminal activity in the past. Do you not remember getting angry with me for inquiring about them? And calling me a jerk because I brought them up? Do you not remember so emphatically trying to convince me that he's not the man he was 10 years ago? I've been reviewing your emails over the last few days as I write my declarations - I'm amazed at how arrogant and smug the two of you have been. Calling me names, bringing up ugliness from my childhood (living on the streets and such), saying things that could not possible have any intention other than the cause emotional distress. Surely, you would not expect me to now be sympathetic to what you're going through.
You seem to be hung up on this issue of "being legal". We are not in criminal court - we are in family court. The Court's primary concern is Gabriel's well-being. Not whether what you are doing is "legal". Consuming alcohol is "legal" but if a parent drinks a bottle of vodka for breakfast every morning I guarantee the Court is going to hold that against them and they'll probably lose their children.
And, finally, about making you feel worse than you already do: It is not my purpose or objective to make you feel worse. If that happens it is only an indirect consequence. You and your fiance have caused me and Gabriel so much grief and trouble since you've been back in his life that I can't believe you would now try to make me feel guilty for your current problems. You put yourself where you are - not me and not Gabriel. You chose to be with a pathetic loser...nay, to be ENGAGED to him even. You chose to ignore all the signs of trouble. You chose to blame your problems on me. You chose to live in a house his family owns (twice) rather than being independent. Every single problem with your life is nobody's fault but yours. Even the problems between us - their wouldn't be any problems between us if you didn't steal Gabriel away to Phoenix last year, then lie incessantly about everything, then accuse me of doing the things you and Kristopher were doing, the go to court and try to make me seem like I'm some monster taking advantage of you. Ah, forget it, there's no point. People like you don't change. In twenty years you'll be crying the same song you've been since you were 15.
In case you don't feel like reading the last message, because it was admittedly, quite lengthy, I'll summarize it for you here:
You created your own problems. Stop trying to make me and Gabriel and the whole world feel sorry for you. I'm not trying to make you feel bad about anything you didn't bring on yourself. At the next hearing I intend to provide the Court copies of all of your eloquently [sarcasm] worded emails to me to show that you are not really the kind-hearted, loving, gentle person you try to present yourself as.
Good day.
Yes I intend to "exercise" my winter visit with my son. Gabriel was not exposed to ANY marijuana use and I didn't "allow" Kris to keep anything in the house. It was hidden and I had no knowledge of it, except for the pellet guns which were completely legal.
You will never be able to make feel worse about what happened than I already do on my own but I know you're hell bent on trying.
Desiree:
You already sent me this exact message at 12:08pm yesterday. Please correct whatever is causing your mail client to send duplicates.
Fox