Update

What!?!?!?

You say "I trusted you and look where that got me."  That seems to be a
recurring claim of yours but what exactly did I do to you that was so
bad?  When did I ever abuse your trust or take advantage you?  How was I
in any way responsible for ANY of the difficulties you've had?  The only
perceived shortcoming on my end was that I was not very sensitive - but
I'm not a sensitive person and I was fed up with your lies and
manipulation.  You lied to me about your father forcing you to have an
abortion; you lied to me about having a miscarriage; you lied to me
about using drugs; you lied to me about looking for work; you wrecked
the car three weeks after we bought it; your manipulated me into moving
to Phoenix in September 2000 so you could be close to your mother when
Gabriel was born; you manipulated me into letting your drug using friend
stay with us.  The list goes on and on.  Tell me ONE bad thing that I
did to you!!!  Just one thing!!!  Tell me one way that I took advantage
of you when you!!!

As for Kristopher being irrelevant to the custody case, I disagree.  The
fact that you stuck up for him for so long, knowing what he was doing;
vouched for him; ignored his criminal activity; left the children in his
care on a regular basis; had him living in the house with you and the
children; (presumably) had meth in the house and allowed it;
(presumably) had firearms in the house knowing it was illegal for either
you or him to possess a firearm (you because of your documented drug
use, him because of his drug use and felonies); brought him to the
family court proceedings (there's security video of you and him in the
court room), shows an incredible lack of good judgment and a willingness
and history of repeatedly putting your children in danger for your own
selfish desires.  So, yes, he is still relevant to the custody
proceedings (inasmuch as it show your selfishness and lack of judgment).
If you had left him before this happening it might have shown good faith
or sincerity on your part, but the fact that you're claiming he is out
of your life now that he's probably going to be in prison for the next
15 years shows that you only did it because you, literally, had no
choice.  Had he been released he'd be with you right now talking about
how much of a prick I am.

One last point I HAVE to make:  you're saying that me, Michael, AND
Kristopher have been the source of much of your problems.  Let's assume
that's true.  Do you not see a pattern there?  YOU keep picking these
people to be in serious long term relationships with, to live with, and
to have children with.  At some point you have to realize the problem
may be with YOU choosing the wrong people.  (Of course, this is based on
the false premise that the men in your life really are the cause of your
problems.  In my case I fail to see anything wrong or bad that I did and
you've failed to state anything bad that I did; in Michael's case, you
stayed with him for 8 years so if he was so bad why didn't you leave
sooner?  And until now you've still insisted that he was a good person
and that you and him are on good terms.  In Kristopher's case you knew
exactly what he was doing but instead of ending the relationship you
tried to justify his behavior, got mad at me at told me to mind my own
business.)

Oh, but look on the bright side: if you're really done with him then he
will no longer be a financial drain on you; and if you really are
staying off drugs then there won't be that temptation/influence around.

Good day to you,
Miss Capuano
		

I shall address your inquiry: "I trusted you and look where that got
me."

After some consideration here is what I have concluded:

1. It got you interested in, and started with Oracle.  Had I not pushed
you to study Oracle then you would likely not have selected it as a
course of study at the college.  That then led to the career and job you
now have.

2. It got you out of Penn Mar, where you were confined indefinitely,
under a court order.  Had you not trusted me you would have sat there
for at least 3 months.

3. It got you the opportunity to live in an economically comfortable
environment where you didn't have to scrape by or stress over petty
financial concerns or be dependent on the generosity of others.

4. It got you excellent medical coverage which, if not for, then Gabriel
would have had serious complications considering he was 3 months
premature.  By the way, I did hear back from Blue Cross on the issue of
whether they billed you for anything, including the helicopter.  No,
they did not.  Nothing related to Gabriel's birth was billed to you or
went on your credit.

5. It got you the ability to stay at home with Gabriel without having to
worry about working.

6. It got you the opportunity to relocate to Phoenix to be close to your
mother during the pregnancy and after Gabriel's birth.

7. It got you off of drugs (albeit, temporarily).  I do wonder how much
of your decision to separate was influenced by your return to drug use
(recall, when you went to your mother's in August 2001 you started
smoking marijuana again...three weeks later you said you wanted to go
back to Phoenix).

8. It gave you the opportunity to see that a person doesn't have to
carry on the lifestyle of their childhood or families, and that a person
is only limited by their ambition and willingness to work hard for
something.

9. It showed you (although you seem to have ignored this lesson) the
importance of financial security and responsibility.  Especially when
children are involved.

I'm sure there's more and if they come to me I'll let you know.  So,
what are the bad things you keep talking about?  Just one thing, that's
all I'm asking for.  One bad thing.

Fox